(Closed) we have reserved _ seat(s) in your honour. Rude if it says "1" seat?

posted 5 years ago in Paper
  • poll: rude?
    yes : (2 votes)
    10 %
    no : (18 votes)
    86 %
    other : (1 votes)
    5 %
  • Post # 4
    Member
    793 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I don’t think it would be offensive. You won’t be inviting just couples, there will be families too. So it wouldn’t be like Jane didnt get a plus one but everyone else did. Jane’s would be 1 seat, while the Smith family has 3 kids so they get 5 seats. I think it’s perfectly acceptable to reserve only 1 seat for some guests. :]

    Post # 5
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    1491 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I reserved 1 seat for some of my guests…

    Some of them are recently separated or dont have a husband/longtime boyfriend.  My wedding is small, so I’m trying to limit it to close family and friends only.  

    Post # 6
    Member
    634 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @Mint2Bee:  I wrote: “One seat has been reserved in your honor” on my website for guests to RSVP.  No one gets a plus one.  If they are married, each person has one seat so this doesn’t become an issue of “why don’t I get a plus one.” Nobody gets a plus one!

    Post # 7
    Member
    7901 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

    No. I would assume those who got more than 1 were families and established couples, not just other guests for random dates.

    Post # 8
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    7271 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I don’t think it’s rude. It should be obvious to them that other guests have families or are married (engaged, long term).

    Post # 9
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    6355 posts
    Bee Keeper

    Most brides here will say no, but I’ll be honest and say I would be offended… even if I were single… if I were over 16. (And if I were under 16, I’d expect to be invited along with my parents, not get a seperate invitation).

    Post # 10
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    11418 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    I personally strongly dislike the entire concept of including the “we have reserved _______ seats in your honor” language, regardless of how many seats that involves. Although I understand why couples today want to use this language and what they are hoping to accomplish and avoid by doing so, I think it just creates additional awkwardness and difficulties, including some guests thinking they are able to substitute other guests if one of the invited guests is unable to attend. The concept of “reserving” seats before guests have accepted an invitation just doesn’t work for me. I have never seen this IRL, and I attend a lot of weddings. However, many bees choose to use this language.

    Post # 11
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    634 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @Brielle:  The problem is that in some places, if you do not denote now many seats are reserved, some guests will bring their entire family.  This happened to my coworker.  She invited guests with their names written on the invitation and RSVP and many showed up with guests ranging from plus one to plus five.

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