MemberI am in the process of making my response cards, and I really like the idea of
“we have reserved __ seat(s) in your honour” and
_/_ attending
BUT is it rude if the number of seats reserved only says 1? I think it could be offensive because guests who only get 1 seat will be aware that some people get to bring a date.
thoughts?
Memberalso looking to incorporate “can’t wait” and “will celebrate from afar” in a way that makes sense
MemberI don’t think it would be offensive. You won’t be inviting just couples, there will be families too. So it wouldn’t be like Jane didnt get a plus one but everyone else did. Jane’s would be 1 seat, while the Smith family has 3 kids so they get 5 seats. I think it’s perfectly acceptable to reserve only 1 seat for some guests. :]
MemberI reserved 1 seat for some of my guests…
Some of them are recently separated or dont have a husband/longtime boyfriend. My wedding is small, so I’m trying to limit it to close family and friends only.
Member@Mint2Bee: I wrote: “One seat has been reserved in your honor” on my website for guests to RSVP. No one gets a plus one. If they are married, each person has one seat so this doesn’t become an issue of “why don’t I get a plus one.” Nobody gets a plus one!
MemberNo. I would assume those who got more than 1 were families and established couples, not just other guests for random dates.
MemberI don’t think it’s rude. It should be obvious to them that other guests have families or are married (engaged, long term).
MemberMost brides here will say no, but I’ll be honest and say I would be offended… even if I were single… if I were over 16. (And if I were under 16, I’d expect to be invited along with my parents, not get a seperate invitation).
MemberI personally strongly dislike the entire concept of including the “we have reserved _______ seats in your honor” language, regardless of how many seats that involves. Although I understand why couples today want to use this language and what they are hoping to accomplish and avoid by doing so, I think it just creates additional awkwardness and difficulties, including some guests thinking they are able to substitute other guests if one of the invited guests is unable to attend. The concept of “reserving” seats before guests have accepted an invitation just doesn’t work for me. I have never seen this IRL, and I attend a lot of weddings. However, many bees choose to use this language.
Member@Brielle: The problem is that in some places, if you do not denote now many seats are reserved, some guests will bring their entire family. This happened to my coworker. She invited guests with their names written on the invitation and RSVP and many showed up with guests ranging from plus one to plus five.
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