(Closed) We have the ring but should we wait until we can afford the wedding

posted 5 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
3101 posts
Sugar bee

@anemone681:  I think a 2 year engagement is just fine.  Mine was 19 months and I loved every minute.  Ours had a pretty good amount of DIY, but none required that week.  My budget was $10,000 and I came in right under.  I don’t know if that helps, but yes, def wait until you can afford the wedding!

Post # 5
3101 posts
Sugar bee

@anemone681:  Photos–I totally agree.  IMO the biggest part of your budget should be spent here.  Rings–you can very easily get an inexpensive ring for now and get a nicer one for a future anniversary.  Mine was initially $100 at a pawn shop, and I replaced the tiny diamond for a small Moissanite for $200, so my ring was roughly $300.  When you say “We have the ring,” what do you mean?  Heirloom?  You bought it but haven’t “gotten” it yet?  How much was it?

Post # 7
348 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

We couldn’t afford a wedding at the time that we got engaged, and thus our engagement will be 28 months long by the time we get married in October. We didn’t really have anything saved until about a year before our wedding, and even now at a little over three months away we are still in hard-core saving mode to finish paying for it. I’ve actually been working two jobs, using the income from the second job for the wedding.

We’re having a small, modest wedding like you are describing… there will only be 25-30 guests. For about $9k, we are having a really nice ‘weekend wedding’ at a mountain lodge.  Our priorities were really good food, full open bar, and good photography, so we didn’t skimp on those expenses.  We also decided to splurge on a DJ which was another $800, because we didn’t want to worry about coordinating songs or the flow of the day (and didn’t want to give a family member or friend a “job” to do). We’re having a bonfire and s’mores bar at the end of the reception, which will be awesome.

A lot of people are very good at DIY and save a lot of money that way. However, I am not a crafty DIY person — I simply do not have time, creativity or patience for it. Therefore, it was worth it to me to purchase things (or hire someone) and not have to deal with it. 

Can I introduce you to a website? http://www.intimateweddings.com/blog/real-weddings/

It’s a blog that features so many “real weddings” of people who had small weddings, and most of them were budget weddings.  That link should bring you to the page that breaks weddings up into categories, like “budget weddings” and “at home weddings” and many, many more.  This blog was a huge source of my inspiration.

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