(Closed) hmmm

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
277 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010


I don’t know how it works with within families, but this doesn’t sound like the worst thing.  They could have chosen a wedding date within a month of yours or something more ghastly.  I would be happy for them, unless she is blatantly showy and drawing attention to herself during the next month

Post # 4
467 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

as selfish as their actions are, i think the best way to rise above it is to remember that YOUR WEDDING is still coming up in 2 months, and that their engagement can do nothing to shadow it – plus, on the bright side, at least he didn’t propose AT the wedding – that would have been grounds for a bridal-beat-down 😉

overall though, i would suggest just going with the flow with this – getting upset about it (and letting them know) will only play into their selfish personalities and give them the attention that they want

and don’t forget to think about the beautiful things about your wedding and your relationship 🙂

Post # 5
5262 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

Wait, you’re mad that they got engaged within two months of your wedding? 

I’m sorry, but I think that’s you need to realize it’s their relationship, and you don’t get a whole month or two months for your wedding. 

Post # 6
451 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

That’s no bad, at least the wedding isn’t within 2 months of yours like ours is 🙂

I would rather an engagement come closer than the actual wedding. Just trying to look at the upside of things for you!

Post # 7
340 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2010

I agree with @beachbride – I don’t see how them getting engaged steals any of the spotlight from your wedding??  Getting engaged is a wondeful thing, meant to be celebrated. In My Humble Opinion, I don’t think you should be upset. But, I am only an outsider looking in, perhaps things work differently in your family?

Post # 8
2779 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I’m sorry, I’m with the previous posters, I don’t see what the deal is. My sister can be selfish and self-centered at times but if her boyfriend decided to propose to her just before the wedding I’d be over the moon. Heck, even if he proposed to her during the wedding reception I’d be over the moon. It’s not like they’ve said they’re setting the date for the same day is it? 

Post # 9
434 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

???? Fiance and I got engaged a month before his sisters wedding (which we both stood in) and it was no big deal, actually it was awesome! She was so excited that we’re officially going to be sisters, and even made a comment about it in her wedding speech. It worked out really well for us, because they have tons of family that lives on the other side of the country, and they got to congratulate us in person when they saw us. Not for one minute did we ‘steal their thunder’.

Post # 10
1940 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

As much as we brides-to-be like to think that our wedding is the at the center of everyone’s lives, it’s not.  In all actuality, we get one day – our wedding day.  I would be upset if he proposed at the wedding, but 2 months before, not at all.  My brother-in-law and his fiance are getting married 4 days after us – I was a little upset at first, but I realized it doesn’t take away from our wedding at all (we had our wedding date set for almost a year before they got engaged and picked their date).  


This was a post a long time ago that talks about how a wedding is a huge deal to the bride-to-be, but for others, it really isn’t (not to be mean – it’s just the way it is).  Not sure if it could help in your situation.



Post # 11
4765 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2011 - Vintage Villas

I’m confused. You’re angry because they got engaged within two months of your wedding? Somehow I’m not understanding what the problem is. It’s their relationship, and you can’t expect them to put it on hold simply because you’re getting married soon.

Post # 12
3709 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I don’t see anything selfish about this. It’s their relationship, your Future Brother-In-Law can propose when he feels the time is right. I don’t see how this will affect your day in any way.

Post # 14
473 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I have to agree with everyone – this really isn’t a big deal. This definitely won’t affect your day.  My brother in law proposed to his fiance a week before my bridal shower, and even though everyone wanted to see her ring, the attention was still on me. The attention will be on you on your wedding day – because you’re the bride.

At least they aren’t getting married right before you.  My mom did that to me… got married 3 weeks before my wedding.  And again… the wedding was still about me and my husband… no one else.

Post # 15
135 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I don’t see what the big deal is? My sister just got engaged over Easter weekend and my wedding is coming up and I’m SO excited for her. Engagement is a happy time, nothing to get upset about. They aren’t going to take anything away from you on your wedding day.

Post # 16
1212 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I think you are over reacting. They just got engaged, its not like they set their wedding for the day before yours. While you might not think that they are a great couple, in my experience its best to just smile and nod and try to be happy for them. Them being engaged does not have anything to do with your wedding, especially 2 months out. Remember you get a day, not a year, and you still have to share it with your FI! :-P.

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