(Closed) We Look Down On Childfree Ideology and We're Not Sorry.

posted 7 years ago in Parenting
Post # 17
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

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@PositiveThinking:  Exactly. My goal in life is to win a Nobel prize. Giving birth just wasn’t a huge deal to me. I think I’ve felt more excitement and feelings of accomplishment from exam grades.

Post # 18
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Busy bee

I think the child free one didn’t actually say anything. I kept waiting for a real punchline, or something shocking, and then the article ended …

I was pretty offended by the Amy Glass article though. It’s not just moms that she’s looking down on, but jobs that are not “doctors, and engineers”. There are people who make good livings by doing laundry. It’s called dry cleaning, and a laundromat. I just think what she said about laundry not being real work, and housework not being real work to be really classist (and in some ways racist). 

I liked what one person said in the comments section: “Enjoyed reading your thoughts about all the average women out there raising the Doctors and Engineers you praise.” – that about pretty much sums it up. 

Post # 19
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Buzzing Beekeeper

Both are idiots.

But I will say there are a lot more articles out there bashing the CBC life than there is bashing being a mum. And that is not counting the entertainment and advertising industry that also blantly either ignore CBC’ers in marketing (I mean everyone does washing not just mothers) or have subtle digs by saying how wonderful motherhood is or only protraying the childfree as nasty witches that hate kids.

 

Post # 20
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Personally I do not give a sh*t if someone choices to have kids or not.  It is none of my business and no matter where you are on the spectrum whether childfree by choice or you have a family the size of the Duggars; it does not effect me one freaking bit.  As long as you are happy and you financially support your own; whether your own means a bunch of four-legged babies or the two-legged kind.  Oh and teach all of your “babies” to behave.  I despise bad behaving children as much as bad behaved dogs.  In both cases I blame the parents/owners.

Post # 21
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I liked this report published in the Proceedings of the National Academy of Science it found “very little difference” between the life satisfaction of parents who wanted children and people without kids who wanted to be childless.  

 

Post # 22
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Busy Beekeeper

Its real simple, do what makes YOU happy. Have kids or dont and be confident in your choice to not need validation from the outside.

Post # 24
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Busy Beekeeper

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@PositiveThinking:  my comment wasnt directed at you at all. its my thinking out loud at stupid articles like this that want a carbon copy world of everyone making the exact same life choices.

Post # 25
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2019

I am childfree for various reasons.   Yet I don’t look down on parents.   I am always happy to know if a woman is  having a baby or  see children playing etc.

 

For me I decided when I was 20 that I would not have children.   I just don’t see myself being a mother, I am always busy or distracted to find time to look after a child. 

I have my nephew who is almost 3 and I indulge him,  take him to the playground.   At the end of the day I am happy to let him go back with his mother.

 

Post # 26
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Busy bee

The world would probably be a much better place if there were fewer people looking down on each other’s choices. Also, if there was a lot more “sorry.” Title alone let’s you know there’s very little of value behind those links.

Post # 27
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@PositiveThinking:  Clickbait clickbait clickbait. People write such melodramatic stuff they probably don’t even believe or care about just because getting people all riled up is a great way to get clicks, regardless of whether you want them just for attention or because you get paid for them.

On topic, I am childfree but also an elementary school teacher. I like kids, but prefer that they stay mostly out of my home without significant advance notice and don’t think they belong everywhere.

I also find it frustrating when people seek to validate their own choice to have kids by putting down my choice not to do so. I am not unfeminine, I am no more selfish than plenty of parents, I am not going to change my mind, I am plenty fulfilled with my lifestyle, I met the right person and he doesn’t want them either, and I am not worried about what happens when I get old. (My answers to the usual arguments.)

I also don’t think it’s my place to choose for other people what lifestyle is right for them. One path is not right for everyone, and everyone should live their life in whatever way satsifies them without hurting others.

Post # 29
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

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@PositiveThinking:  Indeed, the choice to not have children is considerably easier to reverse if you DID change your mind than the other way around…

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