Post # 1
This is my first post (longtime secret lurker) and I couldn’t resist posting because this past weekend… the bf and I went to the mall and looked at rings!
We talked about a timeline these past few days, and we are planning on getting a place next Fall (’12) because I will be done with my master’s program by then and finished with our leases.
We plan to be engaged before we get our place, but that means he could propose anytime in the next 1.5 years (the obscurity of this will surely drive me nuts).
So he expressed that he didn’t want me to know when the proposal was coming, because it would ruin the romantic surprise… but now that I know (due to our timeline-related chats) that he’s planning on proposing in the next 1.5 years (as if that tells me anything useful!), he thinks the surprise is ruined.
I pointed out that if he plans on proposing (for example) this Christmas/NYE, and he starts asking me questions about ring styles a few weeks before the holidays (because he doesn’t know what I want), I’ll obviously know his romantic proposal is imminent…
THEN HE SAID HE SHOULD KNOW WHAT I WANT NOW so I can be surprised at the timing of the proposal, and asked if we could go look at some rings this weekend!
Um, DUH!! (Well what I actually said was “yes”).
SOOOO… We went to 4 different jewelry stores and tried on a bunch of styles. I would never have guessed his taste was exactly mine — we were both repeatedly drawn to the exact same style of ring. We settled on the one we both like the best (Tiffany setting) and he joked that the only thing he gets to decide on at this point is the size of the diamond.
He even picked the style of wedding band he wants for himself!
…I know it’s not quite an engagement, but I can’t help being excited. I’m trying to contain the giddy. I’m feeling really happy/lucky/blessed right now.
Post # 3
Congrats!! Let the fun begin!
p.s. LOVE your name.
Post # 4
That’s a really brilliant way to go about it. Tell your guy to spread the word. Want to help keep your lady from panicking and off your back? Lay everything out on the table, be clear about your future, and buy the ring EARLY. I think that’s one of the things that bugs us so much. We near a timeline, we don’t know if he’s looking or saving and he refuses to tell us where we are going. Do it all in advance so you’re left with the element of suprise and no questions later. What a smart guy! You really have quite the catch there.
Post # 5
Welcome! I also have a timeline of 1.5 years! At first I was like “YAY!!!!” but now I’m realizing how far away that actually is! The proposal could be anywhere in the next 1.5 years. Ugh. It would really help if I had a way to mark of the days so I can see the movment forward. I really don’t have a way to do this discreetly, so instead I’m counting the days I don’t say anything about engagements on my iPhone. It’s been 5 days. (woo me lol) perhaps something like that would help you! Since you are new, I recommend looking up Mr.Bees plan on here. A few threads down there is one I started about it with a link to what it actually is. Good luck!
Post # 6
Congratulations on looking at rings! That’s a good idea to go early and so cool that y’all had the same style. And I know 1.5 years seems like a long time, but at least you know it is happening. My boyfriend said he doesn’t want to get married before finishing school and since he’s not currently in school now, our time line is indefinite. Awesome (major sarcasm).
Post # 7
Hooray, that’s so exciting!! We’re going to look at rings too as soon as the SO is done with school — 5 more weeks! I hope your wait is short 🙂 and welcome to the boards!
Post # 8
How exciting! We have a 1.5yr timeline too, when I’m done with school. It’s exciting to know the man you want to marry wants to marry you too! 🙂
Post # 8
Yaaaayyyyy!! So exciting!!
My SO and did the same thing a few weeks ago…. so much fun to try on those beautiful shiny rings!
Post # 9
@CorgiTales: thank you… gotta love them jeggings.
@claireos: he is definitely a catch 😉 🙂
@Tunacupcakes: i just saw your thread, it’s definitely a good attitude to have, especially for your own sanity. It definitely is wise to concentrate on improving yourself getting into the habit of having your own thing/life.