(Closed) We must be loners.

posted 6 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I feel ya! We could only think of 12 people we wanted at the wedding. But we also decided we didnt want to invite family members we havnt spoken to in over a year, and neither of us have a big family so that cut down the list alot as well.  I feel like it will be more fun and personal with our small guest list 🙂

Post # 4
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2651 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

People we want to be there: 24

People that HAVE to be there: 186

Pretty sure there is a Destination Wedding in our future

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

My Fiance and I are more introverts as well.  We have some very close friends (who have SOs), but not huge amounts of friends.  We’re having around 60 people, and including our close friends, immediate family, aunts and uncles, and all SOs.  No kids and no cousins.  If we included kids and cousins, we could easily have 150 people!  I think a smaller wedding suits us just fine.

The monetary aspect of it is nice : )

Post # 6
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352 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I’m glad I’m not the only one that felt this way. 

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I have a very large family, so I have a feeling we’re going to struggle with keeping the guest list as small as I would like it unfortunately. Wah.

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@allyfally:  I so wish I had your problem… My family alone (just including my parents siblings, Fi’s siblings, spouses of the previous, and grandparents) comes to 53 people.. and that’s not including my gazillion cousins that I had to cut from my wedding. Fiance and I had to struggle to narrow down to 15 friends a piece (which is hard when they’re all married!!!)

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 1900

I have a large family that I am close to.  We are that kind of family that has huge get-togethers to celebrate every birthday and holiday.  So that takes up a lot of the guest list.  Plus my parents are giving us a substantial amount so we wanted them to invite their friends.  And I’m inviting coworkers (with guests).  It adds up pretty quickly. 

But I can tell you that every single person we are inviting is someone that we want to be at our wedding. (Even my parents friends because I grew up with them and their children so they are more like family friends.)

Post # 11
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I think some of it comes down to how selective you want to be.  We are going to end up at about 90 guests, mostly friends/very little family as I’m not particularly close to my extended family, and my fi’s extended family would have to travel Internationally to join us…. but we could easily have run the guest list up to 200 if we had wanted to, with “lesser” friends and a big group of cousins and aunts and uncles that I’ve not seen in 20 years.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

We felt like that at first, but as time passed there were more and more people that we wanted to celebrate with.

Post # 13
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676 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

our guest list is about 50 but probably 85% of that is family. I have about a billion acquaintances/not so close friends but very few close friends. I love all of my “friends” but that doesn’t mean I find them close enough to invite to my wedding. I feel like a loner a lot when it comes to people I would really consider sharing this special day with because I feel like our guest list is going to go down below that 50 mark. I wouldn’t want a bunch of people at our wedding who didn’t want to be there or were only there for the free food. I want to share it with the people who are genuinely happy for us and excited to share this time in our life with us. For us that isn’t a very large number, Fiance had to struggle to find 2 groomsmen aside from his best man. I think in the end having only the people that are close to you will make it much more special.

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

Invite who you want there, no matter what the ending size result will be.

Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I have about 4 close friends (one of which is also one of my FI’s close friends) and Fiance has about the same; we have maybe 10 (combined) other friends. We’re having, at most if *every* friend can come to our wedding (which is a Destination Wedding for all mine), 20 guests. That’s including our daughter and our immediate families.

We both have enormous families, but I don’t speak to most of mine; we’re intentionally getting married away from where I live currently because all of FI’s 100+ relatives live here and would expect an invite. We’re both very private people and we’re grad students – we’re doing this thing as small as we can while still having a party. Sometimes I feel a little sad that we don’t have all these close friends to party with, but on the flipside, I can get a small, nice venue, delicious food, and don’t have to break our very tiny budget. It’s a pretty sweet deal 😉

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2002

We had 60 at our wedding 11 years ago and the older we get, the less people we really want to see/hang out with. I love intimate weddings and I’m sure yours will be perfect!!!

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