Post # 1
We’re 18 days away from the wedding and I STILL have people that will not give me a definite answer if they’re coming. I have other people calling to ask to bring dates and then I have a few people that RSVPed yes that are now saying no, which I had to hear from a third party. This wedding will be the death of me!
Post # 3
@xoxovmarie: If it`s past your rsvp date, contact them in person or on the phone and let them know that if they are still unable to give a definite yes or no, you are considering them a no, as you need final numbers for the caterer.
Post # 4
@julies1949: I’ve texted/facebook messaged and left voicemails. I think people are afraid of disappointing us by saying no, but really I’ll only be disappointed if I have to pay for a plate for a guest that isnt coming! lol
Post # 5
LOL…for nextime…Please advise if you will attend: Yes/ No
Post # 6
@xoxovmarie: Just say the words
Having not heard from you, we are considering you a no for the wedding. We will miss you.
Post # 7
@julies1949: +1. Totally let them know if they don’t tell you either way, you’ll have to consider them a no.
Post # 9
@xoxovmarie: …text them the work YUKON
YoU Komin Or Not?
Post # 10
@xoxovmarie: omg I’m so sorry you’re going through this. I think if people are beating around the bush, just tell them they’re time is up and you’re unable to save a seat for them. Sorry, but if theyre unable to give you an answer, youre unable to feed them. It’s not fair to you. Good luck!
Post # 11
@xoxovmarie: I will never understand why people seem to have so much trouble with the RSVP card. I’ve had like 4 or 5 people call and be like well we are going to come but do we need to send back the card?
YES you need to send back the card! I mean it could not be easier I addressed and stamped the envelope for you, literally all you need to do it drop it in the mail!
If I just let everybody call me I’d be off on numbers, not have the catering correct and probobly leave somebody off.
You just need to call those people and leave a message saying “We are taking your lack of a reply as a no. We are you sorry you cannot make it and will miss you!” and be done with it. I’d prob also call the people I heard are not coming and just ask “We heard you would not be able to make it but your RSVP card says you will be coming, is there some kind of a mistake?” I’d rather know than pay for a plate for somebody not coming.
Good luck with your wedding!! 18 days, omg how exciting 🙂
Post # 12
I feel your pain – I had several people send back their cards completely blank (am I supposed to intuit whether you are coming and what you would like to eat for dinner?).
I also had a lot of people on FI’s side call or email my Mother-In-Law and tell her they were coming…and luckily she told most of them they still needed to send the card in because otherwise I wouldn’t be able to keep track of everything.
The thing that didn’t help was that my Mother-In-Law emailed the rehearsal dinner invitation about 2 weeks after the wedding invites went out, so a lot of those people thought that if they RSVP’d to her, it automatically meant that they didn’t have to respond to me. Wrong! If I could do it over again I would have managed that timing a lot more closely.
Post # 13
I’m glad e RSVPs are going to my moms house so I can respond to in person RSVPs with “my mom still needs the card, please send it to her.” I feel like it’s less likely to be responded to with a “but you know I’m coming!” response.
Post # 14
@xoxovmarie: Oh I can understand the frustration! Sorry you’re having to deal with this. I had the best results from directly calling people; it puts them on the spot and they have to answer. Good luck!
Post # 15
For the people who haven’t responded, send them a message letting them know you need a definite answer about whether they are coming or not and that unless you hear from them by (Thursday/Friday?) you’re going to assume they are a “no”.
Post # 16
That is so rude. However, there is usually a good deal of buffer between RSVP date and the date you really do have to give a firm guarantee. Generally, it’s possible to underestimate by a handful and still be able to add last minute, whereas once you give the number you are obligated to pay for that meal.
I would also try to track them down at home, if they have a landline, or at work. Some people don’t check voicemails, annoyingly.