(Closed) We planned our wedding around a deployed soldier. Now we wait.

posted 8 years ago in Military
Post # 3
14186 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

Yeah that’s kind of how it works unfortunately. They won’t even know, FOR SURE, when they are leaving until their asses are literally on a plane. And they certainly can’t call and tell you when they’re on their way home. It really sucks. But 90% is pretty good =]. Especially 7 months in advance! So i’d take it and run with it.

I really, REALLY hope this works out for you. A friend of mine planned his wedding around his brother’s sub deployment and they shipped the poor guy out THREE DAYS before the wedding. It was so sad =(. But my husband totally got the slot he wanted and was home for my college graduation, so I hope the latter is true for you also!

When i lived in Seattle, it was very awkward to tell people “oh my husband’s in the Army!” because it wasn’t super well received by some folks so I just kept mum mostly =( I met a really awesome B&B keeper who denounced the military to our faces. Awkward!

Post # 4
4137 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

i’m sure this sucks knowing there’s nothing you can do. i really hope it works out for you!!!

Post # 5
29 posts

My in-laws used to constantly tell me I’d have to get used to the “hurry up and wait” mentality- now that my husband is a Naval Officer I totally get it. We came home from our honeymoon to submit some of his stuff for OCS because he had to leave the next month, he didn’t end up leaving for another year. Same thing with our first PCS. 😛

 I’m sure it will all work out, the trick is to learn to go with the flow 🙂


Post # 6
1766 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

This really sucks.  It’s really hard to plan around a deployment.  It’s nearly impossible to plan around a deployment.  Fiance was deployed last year.  He was 90% sure he’d be home on leave in October.  He came home on leave in January.

If the leave is very close to the supposed coming home date, could you move your date to when he will most likely be home for good?

Post # 8
2907 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

That sucks so bad, but maybe you can get wedding insurance and move the date if need be? Good luck, and our prayers are with you for him to make it to your big day!

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