Post # 1
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Buzzing bee
FI and I are both 25.
We have a few close friends, most of which are couples. A majority of these friends are around our age. And two of them are older- like old enough to be our parents. And we also love to hang out with FI’s parents as well.
We find that everytime we hang out with our younger friends, we get super annoyed with them. It seems there is always some sort of “drama” going on.
For instance, we had a small gathering last night for the Super Bowl. Two of our younger couple-friends came over. Everyone was drinking, with the exception of me because I had to work today. One of the couples got into a huge fight. The girl kept threatening to punch her BF. Our other couple-friends were pissed at each other for some incredibly stupid reason.
FI came over to me and said “And this is why we prefer older friends”. We don’t do the same kind of things with our older friends, like go to the bars or anything. But we take our dog for walks together, and FI goes shooting with one of the other guys. It’s just a lot easier and more carefree to have older friends. I don’t have to hear about so-and-so’s BF and how he pissed her off because he didn’t load the dishwasher correctly, etc. I think we’re just more mature than a lot of people our age, at least the ones we seem to attract as friends. Don’t get me wrong, we like our younger friends, but it’s very easy for use to get annoyed with them.
Do any of you guys feel the same way or have friends who are a lot older than you?
Post # 3
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Helper bee
I can’t believe those people are 25. I am not a fan of drama but from the majority of my experiences drama comes not from someone’s age but from the person. I know people in their 50s that are always surrounded by drama because they cause it. They gossip, backstab, lie, and like starting drama for some reason.
Post # 4
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Honey bee
The majority of our friends are older. For example, my husband’s friend/co-worker who is old enough to be his dad, invited us to spend the night in the mountains a couple weekends ago. He insisted on paying for our room too. We had a great evening! It seems like the couples closer to our age are either too busy with their kids (not a bad thing, but we are childless right now, so we can’t relate to what they’re going through) or are too involved in partying still.
Post # 5
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Honey Beekeeper
We are friends with couples of many ages, some much older and some much younger. A few of the couple’s our age are DRAMA so we try to avoid them. Drama couples exist of all ages, some people just live for the drama at any age.
Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
@MrsPadlock2B:
@tksjewelry:
Very true about people causing drama at any age. Our older friends fit the bill of “older and wiser” in my opinion, so I think they know what is worth to concern yourself over and what’s not, unlike our younger friends.
Post # 7
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Blushing bee
I took one of those mental age tests and got 51.
I’m 31.
So that should tell you my answer lol. I just find that there is less drama with people who are A) happily married, B) financially stable, C) parents, and D) anti-drugs/binge drinking. This is usually older people.
Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper
Yes! My BFF is my age, but my husband and I love to socialize with a lady we used to work with and her husband… they are in their 50s.
Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
Yeah, a lot of our friends are older. I’ve always been friends with older people…when I was 18 one of my best friends was a year older than my mom! FI’s not picky about his friends though. He loves everyone.
Post # 10
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Blushing bee
@MichiganGirl24: For me, it’s never really made a difference about the age of my friends. I had the most protective, sweetest roommate who was 22 and I knew the brattiest woman who was 40+. Just my experience though!
Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
@DW82: I think I should take that test! And I agree with the happily married/children/financially stable/anti-drugs/binge drinking comment
Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
@southernbelle381: True. I can’t stand my coworker who is in her mid 40s.
But I think out of our circle of friends, we get along best with the older ones. This obviously has to do with their maturity, what they consider their priorities, etc. Our younger friends don’t share the same maturity level as our older friends.
Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
@MichiganGirl24: Not a LOT older, b/c FI and I are 31 and 33, but I can’t seem to hang out with my SINGLE friends much anymore. They seem to think that I have unlimited time and money to do things, and don’t understand that I have “someone to answer to” (not that my FI is controlling, but out of courtesy, you should let your SO know when you’re coming and going).
It’s frustrating, but I feel like I’ve lost a lot in common with people I was once very close with b/c of differences through the years. We’re boring, we know that, but we’re also trying to build a life for ourselves!
Post # 14
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Bee Keeper
@MichiganGirl24: We hang out a lot with people our own age ( late 20’s-mid 30’s), but we also have the outliers of older friends here and there. Most of our friends are drama free, so that always helps! I always like leaving a get together feeling refreshed and like I had fun vs being grateful that it is over!
Post # 15
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Buzzing bee
@BurlapnLace: Interesting experience with single people.
My BFF is single, but has been in multiple long term relationships, so she knows the give-and-take, and she’s very mature and understanding.
It may be that the young couples we are friends with aren’t right for each other, so that’s why they drive us crazy?
Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
@Mrs_Amanda: I felt so relieved and refreshed yesterday after everyone had left our house!
