Post # 1
So I went home to see my fiance this weekend and it also happened to be our dating anniversary. We had discussed plans for celebrating our anniversary and decided a thoughtful $20 gift would be the best thing for us — planning a wedding, attending multiple weddings, and saving for a house all took priority. We also celebrated our wedding "pre-wedding-anniversary" in January with a big night out in the city.
So he picked me up at the airport around 4 saying we should do an early dinner cause we had "after dinner plans" … and I said, what what? and he said we were going to the movies – which I love to do and he typically doesnt like, so that was super exciting! Well then when we got in the house, I gave him his $20 gift — How I Met Your Mother Season 3 DVD! He was so excited, and I thought "good job me!" Then he handed me a piece of paper and said – here’s your gift: It was tickets to see Dirty Dancing the Musical in downtown Boston that night!!!! I was SO excited! But the first thing I said was "HEY! We said only $20!!!" … but he said he wanted to do it because he knew I really wanted to see it and he was actually looking forward to it – and we totally enjoyed the night and dinner as well.
Let me preface this with that we definitely do have the money for something like this. The tickets didnt have to go on a credit card. They were paid for in full. They actually weren’t terribly expensive (he got a really good deal because he is an amazing bargain hunter when he wants to be) … but what do you think? He totally went above the $20 spending limit. As of right now we are joint everything – so he kept joking that we were both paying for it so it didn’t matter.
Just curious what you guys think – would you be annoyed? or just happy he went out of his way to give you a wonderful gift??
Post # 3
happy! we have done $20 gift a couple of time and i cheated once and i know he loved it… (same with no credit cards or anything 🙂 )
Post # 4
We have *never* successfully stuck to a limit on gifts. He usually spends more than me (proportionate to his higher income and my much greater love of gifts), but neither one of us can do it. We always wind up setting a limit with the full knowledge that the REAL limit is about twice whatever we say, sometimes much more. We probably need to work on that! ^_^
Post # 5
I’m usually the one who breaks the rule…what can I say? I love him more than $20…well of course you do too but what I mean is my love language is Gifting! So I always want to give more…
He’s always annoyed. But he loves the gifts. So I guess just go with it and have fun!
Post # 6
Thrilled. My Fiance is always doing stuff like this!. For Chirstmas we agreed that since we were going to drive 14 hours to buy a puppy for Christmas that we would stick to a $50 spending budget. He spent like $300 on me. I stuck to the $50 and felt like such a jerk.. but he didn’t care. The only thing he cared about was how excited I was about what he bought me. Sounds like your guy is the same way. I justify it with the knowledge that I’m constantly buying him little things and surprising him with small but thoughtful stuff. So maybe it all adds up to the giant (but occasional) splurges for me.
Post # 7
So happy because it’s a gift you can both enjoy together! What a sweetie! My guy does that all the time too and I always feel a little awkward. As long as you both keep your communication open on your feelings with the matter, as you did, you’re good.
Post # 8
i would be happy!! it’s nice to be surprised and do something on the spur of the moment…the only reason it would slightly and i mean slightly tick me off would be if we couldn’t really afford it and had to put in on the credit card…but…i would go with it!! it’s so nice, especially, when HE is being thoughtful and thinking outside of the box!!! it doesn’t happy to often in my relationship, i am the one that always go over the limit!! but i am totally elated when he steps up and goes a little bit over board!!
Post # 9
I’d just be happy.
How did you like Dirty Dancing? I saw it here in Boston as well, and was disappointed. There were moments that were as good as the movie, but overall I didn’t like it.
Post # 10
We have never stayed faithful to limited gift amounts. Usually I’m the one that can come up with something creative and may lie about it to make it seem like it was under the limit amount, but he chooses things that are WAY above and beyond what he is supposed to. I still love him so I’m not too peeved.
If we were saving for something or sharing money I may be a little peeved just because I don’t really need anything and I am such a cheap skate when it comes to my own money, even when it comes to stuff I need.
Post # 11
HAPPY 🙂 What a sweetie — but it’s hard when you KNOW you could have gotten an equally cool sweet gift if you’d ONLY KNOWN we’d be breaking the rules…this happens to us all the time.
Post # 12
I saw Dirty Dancing here in Chicago and didn’t like it. Whoever played Johnny was terrible! Anyway – we always try to stay within the a limit – I usually can b/c I’m a bargain hunter but he always goes over because he leaves things for last minute. But if he were to think ahead like your Fiance did, I’d be super happy that he was putting so much thought into it!
Post # 13
I always break the money rule on gifts and he feels bad!
I just like to give them and things always remind me of them, so I write them down, or buy them for him and then wait for a special occasion. I always seem have a lot by then!
Post # 14
- Wedding: May 2018 - Coyaba Resort, Montego Bay
I’d just be happy, too! That is a very thoughtful gift for you.
Post # 15
Haha! I know how you feel, my Fiance told me the same thing for Christmas when I broke the rule and got us tickets for a football game 🙂 Although we are still trying to stick to a gift amount and agree on no surprises till the wedding, we know we still should spoil each other every now and then, the wedding budget can’t control our lives completely! Hope you had fun, sounds like a wonderful surprise!
Post # 16
haha! I posted this right before I went to bed last night and I was so excited to see everyone’s answers … I was totally thrilled too! I did feel like a little bit of a jerk, but in addition to my DVD gift I did spend a lot of man hours preparing a personalized gift with photos for him so I think in the end it all evens out!
As for dirty dancing — I really enjoyed it, and surprisingly he did too (typically not a musical type of guy, more into the whole ‘football’ and ‘baseball’ types of events!) … There were definitely a few things that dissappointed me – I dont think the dancers were very good at all! Not that I can dance to save my life, but I was expecting incredible dancers and they just didnt do it for me. We also had the understudy of Johnny, so he wasn’t the greatest and his and Babys chemistry wasn’t there. The singers were fantastic though!
Seems like this rule breaking thing isn’t just the two of us — and I guess I’ll just have to get him back on his birthday! 🙂