(Closed) We set a date, but he doesn’t want to tell anyone…

posted 7 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

This would be throwing up some serious red flags if I was in this situation. Maybe try talking to him again about it?  This seems a little ridiculous.  Zombies??  

Post # 4
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2493 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I agree that is NOT okay. You need to let him know that setting a date means that you are starting to plan. To plan, you need to be able to send out STD’s, book vendors, etc. And if those vendors are your friends, they HAVE to know! I think he is being unrealistic and you need to let him know that once the date is set, he needs to be open to sharing that date with others.

Post # 5
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3968 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Yeah. This makes me uncomfortable. Plus I would think your family would want to be in the know about a wedding more than 9 months ahead of time (especially if you’re engaged already- obviously it IS posisble to have a short engagement) But it sounds like this is a longer (than 9 months) engagement. Something tells me he is not ok with whatever date was picked.

Post # 6
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4046 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

If you just set the date, maybe he just needs more time to adapt or get used to the idea. For some people, big changes don’t come easily. It sounds like he might have his reasons, and is just giving you silly reasons. I’d give him a little more time, and meanwhile have a discussion with him about it.

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012 - Historic Lougheed House

It sort of seems like he maybe isn’t sure about the date…. Has he told people you’re even engaged?  Has he been forthcoming of that info?

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