(Closed) We set the date! And Natural Family Planning?!?! Really?!?!

posted 7 years ago in Catholic
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee

I’ve never been to a class, but I do practice NFP, your body functions shouldn’t gross you out ๐Ÿ™‚ If they do, seriously NEVER get pregnant. They probably will talk about mucus, since thats one of the main ways you can tell if you’re ovulating or not.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee

We are utilitizing NFP (we’re also abstaining since we aren’t married).  It’s a very effective method.  Your body shouldn’t gross you out.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

We did 3 nights of pre cana – 3 hours each, and they covered family palnning for about an hour of it. It wasn’t too bad. I am not a practicing NFPer. I am a BC girl myself. The folks that did our class were not overly preachy, and I actually found it rather informative. They never mentioned the word “mucas”. Don’t worry!

Post # 6
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Sugar bee

We didn’t have to go to one of these classes but I can understand your worry.  I’m not Catholic but my husband is and we got married in a Catholic church so all these marriage requirements were new and scary to me too.  From my experience (though we didn’t have to take this specific class) everything went fine.  I don’t agree with all the beliefs (which is why I’m not converting) but the process was fairly smooth.  The priest was someone my husband knew and he was absolutely wonderful and really opened up some great conversations between my husband and I.  We took an online precana and I honestly did not enjoy the class but it wasn’t all that bad, it just was not helpful in any way so it was more just a waste of time for us.

And don’t worry about not wanting to talk about mucus in front of a bunch of strangers, seems like a pretty normal thing to be concerned about, and I wouldn’t want to do it either even though I’m plenty comfortable about my body.  And seriously don’t worry about becoming pregnant like one of he other posters said, I’m there now and even though I don’t want to talk to strangers about mucus my pregnancy is going just fine.   

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

Two hours of our pre cana were also dedicated to NFP.  But the deacon and his wife didn’t go into the specifics of how it works, at all.  They gave us a booklet and said we all should take a NFP course at a local clinic. But the focus of the two hours was more on why it is important not to use contraceptives, why we should avoid sex before marriage, but must have it once we’re married, the joys of abstinence, and how we must want to have kids to have a valid catholic marriage.

Post # 8
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

We practice NFP and I’m beyond ticked I didn’t learn any of this before our engagement. The information you learn is amazing and should be shared with all women. There’s nothing to be embarresed or disgusted about… and if they talk about CM they actually call it cervical fluid… a little less icky ๐Ÿ˜‰

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Everyone has different levels of comfort around this. On the bright side, I doubt you’ll have to discuss your cervical mucus. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 10
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Newbee
  • Wedding: January 2011

It might totally depend on your instructor, but ours was wonderful!  He’s a practicing OB/GYN, so he has seen it in use with his patients and practices it himself.  Don’t worry, chances are you’ll never have to talk about your own cervical fluid or body temps…we just went over the examples in the book.  Most of the class was taught using Power Point slides.  I think the reason that they don’t really ask you to talk about your own experience using NFP is because they can’t assume that everyone is abstaining or not using hormonal birth control (in which case the CM and basal body temp aren’t valid to use in charting).  In other words, don’t sweat it!  The class isn’t as bad as you probably are imagining it to be! ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 12
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Wannabee

Hey,

 

We got married five months ago and at our seminar there was very little about NFP however both my fiance and I chose to use that method once we were married. We have bee using it for five months now to postpone pregnancy. It has a lot of benefits which is why we chose it. I’ll give you a few reasons:

 

1) People that use NFP have less than a 2% divorce rate.

2) The pill drastically changes what happens in your body and can be harmful to you. I didn’t want to put anything in my body that would alter my femininity and I didn’t want to take chemicals that could have long-term affects on my body.

3) It really causes you to communicate! He knows what’s going on in my body and so do I. Your husband typically fills out the charts for you.

4) If you have a typical cycle it’s about 2 weeks of having sex and 2 weeks not so it’s like going through a honeymoon phase every month.

 

Hope that helps.

Post # 13
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Helper bee

@Lschiferl:

I think the “People who use NFP have a 2% divorce rate” is a pretty misleading statistic.  People who are devout enough to use NFP probably don’t believe in divorce, even in the case of a bad marriage.  It seems extremely unlikely that NFP is causing the lack of divorce.

Post # 14
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Newbee
  • Wedding: April 2011

@Lschiferl:  2) The pill drastically changes what happens in your body and can be harmful to you. I didn’t want to put anything in my body that would alter my femininity and I didn’t want to take chemicals that could have long-term affects on my body.

 

So, so not true.  It does not drastically changes what happens in your body.  It regulates natural hormones that are already present in your body.  It doesn’t alter feminity is anyway; in fact, if you consider the hormones that make you female, it adds to it.  Please do some own research based on science before.  I am a practicing Catholic and med student, and this is so false that it makes me angry.

Post # 15
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@ogreprincessinpink:

so by regulate and being totally natural you also mean that loss of sex drive, mood swings, depression, fertility depression, headaches, etc. Are just merely healthy natural parts? Right. The theory is that it regulates but let’s be honest here and for the sake Of your future patients. If it was healthy and natural there would be no side effects and one pill would work for anyone. No one would need to find the one with the LEAST amount of side effects and when they came off wouldn’t need months and for some Years to get their natural cycle back. Bottom line is Many women suffer from using the pill (and yes, some do benefit for medical reasons) and it’s the first medicine ever created to actually mutate a naturally functioning system and for purely recreational purposes. All I’m saying is that while it may not be as the pp described it’s also not quite the harmless kiddie drug you make it out to be. Bottom line: the healthiest thing an average Woman can do is to let her body stay natural and work in harmony with it. Fertility is not something to fear nor is it something that needs “fixing.” not to mention birth control is wildly and greatly impacting the environment.

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

I am not Catholic and have no business butting in here, but I have to agree with ogreprincessinpink on this one. I understand for some women their religious affiliation is an important aspect of their BC choice, and what works for every woman is different. Having said that, let’s try not spreading exaggerated claims on other sorts of BC that are perfectly fine for other women. I have been on the pill for 17 years with a break of about one year once. I never lost my sex drive, didn’t gain any weight, never ever went through mood swings or depression, and my femininity is perfectly intact.  The year that I stopped taking the pills I went to my normal cycle in a couple months and did ovulate.

To the OP, I guess if I wanted to practice NFP I would’ve liked taking classes. It’s not something you’d want to take a chance on when practicing.

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