Post # 1
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Busy bee
Yes ladies, my Fiance said that a couple nights ago!
I wish this could link with my old profile from my waiting days and you could see how much that statement from him means to me! We dated for just over 6.5 years before he proposed and sometimes it was a huuuuge struggle. We’ve been so incredibly happy since getting engaged and it’s taken such a weight off of me. I can finally enjoy us 100% of the time and stop getting bouts of insecurity and crazy desire every couple months (well every week towards the last months of waiting). I was expressing to him how happy I am now and he said “we should’ve gotten engaged earlier” with this adorable smile, he really meant it.
I guess I’m really writing to say that for guys, hindsight is 20/20 when it comes to getting engaged and that you shouldn’t worry if it’s a struggle right now. A lot of people will tell you if it’s a struggle you shouldn’t get engaged, but this is proof that that’s not always true! We struggled but none of our struggles were about US, they were all about the timing/he just wasn’t ready/no monies/couldn’t find the right ring-maker.
So anyways, hold strong, your guy will come around, and just maybe he’ll realize like mine did that getting engaged is pretty freakin awesome!
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
that’s really adorable! 🙂
My guy had an “ah-ha!” moment like that a few months ago. We aren’t engaged – obviously – but he said that after I started asking him when we’d be moving forward with our relationship he realized that “he should have been thinking about getting engaged all along and wasn’t sure why he hadn’t been.”
The curse of hindsight. 🙂
Post # 4
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Blushing bee
I think that a lot of guys think that as long as you know he loves you, it doesn’t matter. But it really does. People look at your relationship much differently when you are engaged or married. And (I would assume, since I’m still waiting) you feel more secure about your relationship as well.
What it comes down to is that boys just don’t understand women and how their brains work!
Post # 5
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Busy bee
Thanks for the words of encouragement!
Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
How inspirational! I wish my SO would feel that way and hurry up and propose already – we should have been engaged about 2 years ago! Haha 😉
Post # 7
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Busy bee
I’m sure that was relieving, even after the fact!
I try not to but all the time the fact that he waited so long comes up and I’m still slightly bitter over it (I know, I know, I need to get over it) but one time he did say that it would have been nice to do it earlier. It gave me a little bit of satisfaction. In the end, I’m happy it happened the way it did because it allowed us to be more financially stable when all of it happened, but it was still SO frustrating when I was waiting.
Post # 8
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Busy bee
I think my Boyfriend or Best Friend is going to think this in hindsight as well. We are partially waiting because ‘certain family members’ might not be okay with us getting engaged while Boyfriend or Best Friend is OMG STILL IN SCHOOL, but he won’t actually TALK to said family members to find out how they really feel.
Post # 9
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Blushing bee
That’s great to hear!! I have a feeling my Boyfriend or Best Friend is going to have that ‘aha!’ moment as well – a lot of times when a problem comes up, it comes back to ‘why haven’t we gotten engaged yet’, which turns into a bigger issue. Once we’re actually engaged I know that will dissipate – I just wish I could get him to realize that NOW instead of after the fact!
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