(Closed) “We should’ve gotten engaged earlier.”

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Sugar bee

that’s really adorable! 🙂

My guy had an “ah-ha!” moment like that a few months ago. We aren’t engaged – obviously – but he said that after I started asking him when we’d be moving forward with our relationship he realized that “he should have been thinking about getting engaged all along and wasn’t sure why he hadn’t been.”

The curse of hindsight. 🙂

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I think that a lot of guys think that as long as you know he loves you, it doesn’t matter.  But it really does.  People look at your relationship much differently when you are engaged or married. And (I would assume, since I’m still waiting) you feel more secure about your relationship as well. 

What it comes down to is that boys just don’t understand women and how their brains work!

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Thanks for the words of encouragement!

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

How inspirational! I wish my SO would feel that way and hurry up and propose already – we should have been engaged about 2 years ago! Haha 😉

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I’m sure that was relieving, even after the fact!

I try not to but all the time the fact that he waited so long comes up and I’m still slightly bitter over it (I know, I know, I need to get over it) but one time he did say that it would have been nice to do it earlier. It gave me a little bit of satisfaction. In the end, I’m happy it happened the way it did because it allowed us to be more financially stable when all of it happened, but it was still SO frustrating when I was waiting.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I think my Boyfriend or Best Friend is going to think this in hindsight as well.  We are partially waiting because ‘certain family members’ might not be okay with us getting engaged while Boyfriend or Best Friend is OMG STILL IN SCHOOL, but he won’t actually TALK to said family members to find out how they really feel.

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

That’s great to hear!! I have a feeling my Boyfriend or Best Friend is going to have that ‘aha!’ moment as well – a lot of times when a problem comes up, it comes back to ‘why haven’t we gotten engaged yet’, which turns into a bigger issue. Once we’re actually engaged I know that will dissipate – I just wish I could get him to realize that NOW instead of after the fact!

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