Post # 32
Putting myself in your position I can imagine the pain. If there is the slightest glimmer of reassurance it would be; thank God he did this now instead of after the wedding. Had he done it later you would be tired to him for a lot longer than this with lawyers, moving, financial contstraints etc.
If you have made the decision to move on I would seperate your finances ASAP and really let him feel your moving on with your life without him. He may have an over inflated ego at the moment with two women pursing him but how will be feel when you turn away.
Post # 33
I would be pissed off too. There’s definitely something going on with him and her.
Post # 34
@anonconfused: Personally I don’t think it is a misunderstanding… he is cheating.. it might not be sexual but it is still cheating.. you have the screen shot as proof..
I hope things get better for you.
Post # 35
@anonconfused: this is so wrong. I would be furious. Don’t let him turn this around on you. Don’t apologize for “making him feel bad”! He needs to own up to his behavior. I agree with PPs, he is not acting like a committed man. His behavior shouldnt be raising alarm bells with your friends. He needs to let you move on if he’s all about this other girl. What a jerk!
Post # 36
Your FI’s behaviour just reminds me of the men I’ve dated in the past who were not serious about me and treated me terribly. He is no longer invested in your relationship.
Post # 37
Please be strong enough to know when to leave….. This is awful and you don’t deserve it.
Post # 38
He has not contacted me yet. Typically though when He has visiting family members, he is pretty much MIA withe communicatio. But he obviously knows something is wrong, and he isn’t saying anything at all to me. It just makes me feel like he doesn’t even care if I am gone. I simply can’t believe it has come to this. I can’t believe I am single. I cry all the time.
Post # 39
Honestly, I think he meant to call her and thought he was talking to her when he said you are perfect for him.
Post # 40
Leave and don’t look back.
Post # 41
I’m so sorry this happened to you. You’re right to be angry, and you should be! Personally, I think that an emotional affair is far worse than a physical one. Obviously, I can’t say for sure not having been there, but I could at least wrap my brain around possibly forgiving mine if he slept with someone else. I could not forgive him for being in love with someone else.
He will probably come crawling back at some point. Just kick his cheating ass back to the curb where it belongs. You deserve someone who loves you, who will be faithful to you and SHOW you that he cares, not just say nice things when he feels obligated.
Post # 42
I’m so sorry, but I promise, once you’re outside of all this drama you’ll feel so much relief. You didn’t deserve this, you deserve peace & happiness and a man who treats you well.
Post # 43
HUGS! It’s awful finding out stuff like this about your Fiance. I agree with many of the bees. He has violated and disrespected you and your relationship on sooo many levels. He clearly has no care or concern for you or your feelings which is NOT okay at all.
I suggest that you leave him and don’t even consider going back there! You deserve better and you can get it, but you need to put this guy and this unhealthy situtation behind you.
Post # 44
@anonconfused: So if I saw an interaction with a girl like that on my fiance’s social media page or whatever, that girl would be gone. I would tell him that I’m really uncomfortable with their interaction and while I don’t have a problem with him having friends, I expect their relationships to be respectful of ours. If she cannot be respectful, then that means he has to do the right thing and put it to a stop. If that means he doesn’t talk to her anymore, that’s what that means. If he asks her to stop and she doesn’t, it’s on him to cut her out. It’s up to him. IF he doesn’t put it to a stop, then he is enabling it and that’s unacceptable. You gave him the opportunity to do right by you.
I would move on. Much harder to do than say, but honestly, you guys are engaged and he’s acting like this? It’s just a sample of what you’re going to get when you’re married. He’s cheating on you and she doesn’t care because she probably thinks it’s just a matter of time until he’s not in a relationship with you. He doesn’t have his priorities straight. Save yourself. Get out. Find someone who will respect you enough to set his own boundaries without you asking him to. It’s not acceptable. You can love him and you will hurt when you leave him, but someday, someone will treat you right and you will be so thankful you found them and didn’t stick around for this loser. When that future guy makes you happy, you won’t care about your current fiance anymore. You’ll be thankful and happy. You won’t have to be hurt anymore. Please love yourself more than you love someone who does this to you.
Post # 45
I’m sorry, you deserve someone who treats you much better than him. I think this relationship is over, I would suggest you end things and move on.
Post # 46
@anonconfused: I don’t have advice. I just wanted to tell you that this SUCKS. You deserve way better than this. You need a bear hug and a nap. He needs to be kicked in the balls. Regardless of what happened with this girl, he is acting like a self-absorbed, insensitive prick.