(Closed) We took a break, he might have cheated Part II

posted 9 years ago in Emotional
Post # 62
Member
2864 posts
Sugar bee

He is cheating. I totally believe he slept with her.  Then, he has the nerve to not call you back for 12 hours. You know why? BECAUSE he knows that he can get you back and manipulate you into feeling shame. This man has zero fear of losing you. UNDER reacting? Giving him time to explain???  OMG…think with your head and not your heart. Your heart can get you into trouble.  Your instinct gives you the answer. Stop trying to justify in your head how it ‘wasn’t that bad’ what he did. It was THAT BAD.  Stop trying so hard not to lose him even when he disrespects you.  You take control and realize that this is not acceptable.  Stop letting him erode the boundaries you have for yourself. It is not a heart decision but a head decision.  Your heart can mislead you.  He does not respect you nor does he love you.  You need to let.him.go. Look at this actions, not his words. 

Post # 63
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2864 posts
Sugar bee

Oops, didnt read the follow up. Good for you!

Post # 65
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204 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

@anonconfused:  Well, maybe in his mind, he is still respecting the “break” you guys are on.  Maybe he really is waiting for the month to be up before contacting you.

However, I am NOT trying to defend the cheating or the “love my kitty” comments.  That was totally inapproprate and wrong.

Post # 66
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1184 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

This is going to sound harsh, but I think it needs to be said.

He clearly has used this “break” to feel out his relationship with this other girl. He has NOT tried to mend his relationship with you, which is the way he SHOULD have been spending it.   He has probably been viewing this as “partially single” time, and treating it AS IF HE WERE SINGLE and that is clear from his behind-the-scenes behaviors.  And he has been stringing both of you along in the meantime.  

 

I’ve dated guys who are similar.  Get out with your dignity still intact.  Don’t wait around for him to call you.  This man is not future-husband material at all, not now and not for you.   You need to cut him out of your life and move on. You deserve SO MUCH BETTER.  You deserve someone who will fight for your relationship and for winning you back, not seek out a new relationship while he “figures things out with you”.    (and ignoring you while with family?? also NOT cool or acceptable.)

 

I know your heart and soul are on fire and breaking right now, we’ve all been there.  But you will be able to move on and more strongly if you do it yourself.  Chin up girl, and *HUUUUGSS* because you do not deserve this.

 

Post # 67
Member
2803 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Not only is he flirting with her, but he’s doing it publicly. He’s a pig, even if he hasn’t done anything physical with her. Who the hell uses pet names in public for people you aren’t even dating?!

Post # 68
Member
16 posts
Newbee

@anonconfused:  Please

e delete him from your Facebook. ? Gef this guy out of your life he is only doing this to because you let him . Men know if a woman takes them back believes there lies they have them where they want them .. a man wants a strong woman that wont put up with b.s.. . I have been with my lovre for almost 4 years and we have are moments but only because I have a voice and he knows I wont have the b.s. . Lol I have 3 step kids ( he was married for 12 yrs ) his oldest said wow jess fights with you a lot lol and he said know she is just strong about the way she feels. He told me he loves me for that and respects me because I know what I want out of him.. his ex wife was a mute and just went with the flow lol look where that got her.

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