@anonconfused: I just now read thru this entire thread, and was (overall) in a positive frame of mind for you. With your latest update, all I could think in my mind was “F*ck that!!” (in direct relation to his latest decision making).
Here you are, trying to mend from a broken heart and a ‘break’ where you two decided you would not date other people. Here you are trying to wean yourself from social media, as to not go ‘crazy’ in your mind thinking the worst. Here you are trying to maintain your sanity via work, wedding planning, and your relationship, and not be jealous, or needy.
And then here he is…assumingly knowing all you are trying to do, and be, and he is dying Easter eggs at his house with the same gal you question?! Here he is not communicating – fully – where he is, what he is doing, and who he is with?!
Look, we all know relationships thrive off trust, communication, and a perfect balance of individuality and togetherness (i.e. not being over bearing, but maintaining respect for the relationship too). However, I do not think jealousy just ‘happens’. I think jealousy is often a direct correlation to a gut instinct one has, of which covers many aspects.
Social media, etc, does NOT often help our feelings, but sometimes they can validate them too. Hypothetically, possibly, maybe he did have a group of friends over, and she was one of them. Perhaps he was being stupid – much like many men can and are (:)), I did not think anything of her being there, because there is nothing to worry about. HOWEVER, even if it is innocent (and I hate typing if here, but we do not have all the details yet), he needs to respect the fact that you are uncomfortable with this newer friendship. And that there are boundaries of which you need him to adhere too, especially with your crazy schedule. Such boundaries can include him being 100% honest with you, and of course, her not hanging out his house. This gal has not met you, you have not met her…and even if the jealousy is stemming from the fact that you believe this gal THINKS she has a chance with your Fiance (which, as often as it seems they hang out, she might), then it is a valid feeling for you to have.
And seriously, he needs to pull his head out of his *ss, and realize this too!!