Post # 32
Girl, I couldn’t even imagine how hard that is. Weddings are stressful enough without all THAT mess. I’d just elope! Don’t let her suck out your happiness. I’m afraid that’s what would happen if you did a regular wedding. Either she’d make a show of things at the wedding, or she wouldn’t come at all. Save yourself the trouble!
Post # 33
@dollface313: First off, I am so sorry you are dealing with these people. They sound absolutely awful.
Second, I would either elope, or if you really want to be able to include those that are supportive, then I would have your fi break off about 95% or more of contact with his wretched family until that time comes. Is that at all possible?
Post # 34
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
I’m sorry, but why hasn’t he told his Mother to take a long walk off a short pier? He is allowing his family to mistreat his future wife. That is simply unacceptable. He needs to tell them to STFU and be nice to you, or he will cut them out of his life completely.
Oh yeah, and I’d elope. Who wants toxic people at their wedding? Not me. 🙂
Post # 35
Have the wedding YOU want. If you want to elope, go for it! If you want the full wedding, with the Alice in Wonderland theme (which sounds really fun), then do it! Don’t let that crazy, racist bitch dictate your wedding. Have a nice, sit down talk with your fiance and figure out what you both in your hearts want.
Post # 36
You know, if you guys loved your theme and whatnot, there’s no reason why you can’t elope and have a small reception with SUPPORTIVE friends and family in your backyard or a small venue with your Alice in Wonderland-style cake and decor. I don’t think you have to go all or nothing here.
Post # 37
thanks so much bees! My fiance and i have actually not been talking about the wedding or talking to his parents or family much and poof the arguments stopped. All week i have secrectly been thinking how am i going to break it to him that i just want to elope because i didn’t want to disappoint him and funny enough he was thinking the same thing all week!!! He kinda let it slip out last night and i just pummeled him with hugs and kisses cause we were on the same page!! Now how to tell people as i just sent out the save the dates! Stay tuned for that post bees i will def need your help again!!!
Post # 38
I say you have your day and share it with your friends and family who support you. Why should your family and you miss out on enjoying this occasion? Eloping will just throw a cover on the actual issue. I would stop any wedding talk with you Future In-Laws but send them an invite and let them make the choice to be there or not. Once you guys decided that you are done explaining your relationship with them, listening to them talk shit and even having sit down talks about it you will be able to go back to happy planning.
Post # 39
What about a destination wedding if it’s going to be an intimate gathering? Don’t miss out on something amazing because of them.