Post # 1
SO and I were invited to a couples get together last night. We’ve known about the event for over a month. SO didn’t show up. I had a feeling he wasn’t, the night before he started talking like he wasn’t interested in going, he asked ” what time does it start, how much is it, who all is going to be there, etc.” Then 30 min before it started he texted me “I have to do something for work so I’ll be a little late.” When I got to the event my phone lost service, when I left the event I had a VM from him telling me I had an attitude problem because I’m ignoring his texts and phone calls. I called him back to tell him I wasn’t ignoring his calls but that I wasn’t getting his texts and calls because my phone wasn’t getting a signal at the event, but he didn’t pick up. He is reeeally annoying me.
He is 37 years old ( I’m 34 and we’ve been together a little over a year) why does he need me to stroke his ego so much and coddle him. I’m not going to beg him to go places with me, which it seems like he’s been wanting me to do lately. If he doesn’t want to go that is not going to stop me from going. I actually had a great time at the couples event by myself.
One of my girlfriends there told me her boyfriend of 8 months told her he wants to marry her but she told him she needs more time. She told me he asked her “what do you need more time for, I want to be with you, you want to be with me”. He told her she is getting “jewelry” on their 1 year anniversary ( she is 35, he is in his 40’s). I’m so happy for her!
Thanks for letting me ramble LOL
Post # 3
That really blows! Sorry your guy is being a jerk.
Congrats for your friend, though!
Post # 4
@MrsWe: My FH is usually quite sociable but can sometimes be a bit anti-social as well – usually has something to do with being tired after work, etc., even though we’ve said we would both be somewhere. I understand it sucks to have made plans to do something and then not have him follow through at the last minute.
And sorry to hear about the confusion with your loss of phone signal/him thinking you were ignoring him – gaaahhh… all a misunderstanding. Happens with us too.
Just a hiccup; I’m sure it’ll disappear soon 🙂
Post # 5
Just out of curiosity, after you got the text from your SO that he’ll be running late weren’t you concerned/worried/curious when he didn’t show-up at the event? I would’ve been worried that he hadn’t shown up/didn’t hear from him, and gone outside where I had cell reception to call and find out where he was. I’m not taking anyone’s side per se, but I was a little surprised that you knew you didn’t have cell reception and he was running late, yet you didn’t check in on him during the event. I understand why your SO got really upset and angry with you, b/c if my FI were in his shoes and couldn’t get in touch with me, he’d be really mad (ditto for me too). I also understand that you probably were annoyed and upset that he seemed to be dragging his feet and being passive aggressive about attending the event. Either ways, you both seem to be locked in a power struggle and it could turn pretty ugly down the road unless you both learn to handle each other’s needs/wants with more respect.
Post # 6
I think the situation could have been handled differently on both sides from the info you provided, OP. I can understand both sides frustration and hope that it can be resolved. All the best OP
Post # 7
@Shina: Good point! I don’t think he’s in the wrong here, I can see how hes left with the impression that you were ignoring him snd also don’t care for his well being. What if something happened on the way to event?
Post # 8
This incident was more like the straw that broke the camels back…with all the stuff I’ve been dealing with from him I’ve just reached my limit.