(Closed) We were refused by the catholic church!!!!

posted 7 years ago in Catholic
  • poll: what should i do?
    Should i stick it out with our original priest? : (14 votes)
    11 %
    should i get married by the younger priest if he allows us? : (79 votes)
    64 %
    should i get married by the jp at our reception site? : (31 votes)
    25 %
  • Post # 3
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    What if one of you moves back in with your parents?  Then would they marry you?

    ETA: Is that even an option for one of you?

    Post # 5
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    Find another priest!  Not every church is like that.

    Post # 6
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    548 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Many churches would NEVER turn you away, but they probably wont be Catholic.

    Post # 7
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    591 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    @mantha929: How weird! Your church must be SUPER strict. We have been “cohabitating” since we started meeting with the Deacon and Father of our catholic church and although they say the church doesn’t agree, they are still allowing us to get married. We just got the lecture during one of the meetings that cohabitating presents certain “problems or issues” and just to be aware of that.

    So sorry you are going through this…((hugs!!!)) You poor thing! I’m not sure how much this church means to the both of you, but if you can still get married there, I would try. otherwise, I would look into another church. Maybe try another catholic church in your area? Looks like your big day is fast approaching so I understand you are feeling the time crunch. Good luck! Hope it all works out.

    Post # 8
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Yeah, I would find another priest and or church.

    Post # 9
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    Wow, thats pretty intense. I’ve heard of priests asking couples to refrain from living together but I also thought they couldn’t NOT marry you based on those grounds. Now if he asked you to live apart until the marriage and you refused I think he could say he woulnd’t marry you but since you are telling him you live apart again there shouldn’t be any problems.

    If he comes back and says he won’t marry you, talk to the diocease.

    Post # 10
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    if the sister’s are from the diocese (i’m guessing the family life office?) then choosing another local church won’t make a difference. you’d have to choose a different diocese.

    Post # 11
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    467 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    not every catholic church is like this – if you want to be married catholic, i would suggest looking at other churches in the area, and even outside of the diocese if that is possible (i don’t know how your dioceses are broked down and what that distance would look like)

    i had been living with my now husband about 2 years when i was married in a catholic church – actually, i would say that 80% of the couples in our pre-cana class were living together at the time of their wedding, so its not the catholic church in general that does not allow the marriage of people who are cohabitating

    Post # 12
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    7300 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2012

    The Catholic church is making a killing off of these couples! I didn’t know you had to PAY for pre marriage stuff!

    Post # 13
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    39 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    i feel your pain.  Although i am not Catholic my pastor has informed me that he will not marry us because my fiance is not a member of a bible believing church.  He says its a personal thing.  We’re on the hunt to find a pastor who will.  It’s very frustating to say the least. i hope everything turns out for you.  

    Post # 14
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    4354 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    Fiance and I have lived together for over a year and our Catholic church has not said anything.

    Post # 15
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    4770 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Why on earth would you even want to get married by an establishment which “disagrees with your lifestyle?”  Who needs them?  Ask for your 150 back too.

    Post # 16
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    I can’t vote in your poll!  Try the younger priest but then also using the JoP works too.  Or have a friend get ordained online.

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