(Closed) We will not be married if Marriage Equality does not pass in WA state!

posted 7 years ago in LGBTQ
Post # 3
6512 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

I commend you wholeheartedly for doing this.  It is hard to recognize privilege, and even harder to deliberately disavow one of its benefits. 

I truly hope Marriage Equality passes, both for you and for every LGBT couple in Washington that wants to marry.  And just for the world to be a slightly better place. 


Post # 4
1245 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@icetea:  Being from Wa also, I did my part!:)

Post # 5
986 posts
Busy bee

@sarahbabs: +1 to this. 

I think it’s wonderful that you’ve chosen to do this!

Post # 6
389 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

I believe same sex marriage should be legal, but OP, what are you really accomplishing by refusing to get married yourself? (Please don’t take this as negative. I’m just curious).

Post # 9
3885 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Please consider coming to DC where gay men and women have the same right to marry as heterosexual men and women do.  I’ll gladly refer you to my awesome lesbian officiant, who performed the first public gay marriage ceremony in DC, right on the steps of the courthouse.  I’m sure she’d be happy to co-celebrate with your officiant friend.  Bring your entire guest list.  Then count up all the money you spent, and take that back to WA State, and show them how much tax revenue their lack of equal rights has cost them.  

When logic and reason fail, show them the dollar signs. 

Post # 10
199 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I really hope it passes. It makes me soo angry when I see people holding the signs to reject it! It’s ridiculous. It’s not hurting anyone, why can’t people make their own choices?!

Good for you for taking a stand.Smile

Post # 11
362 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I’m from WA, I voted the day my ballet came in. Good luck! I think it will pass.

Post # 12
2874 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@babymakes3:  i agree with this to be honest. i mean, i respect the idea behind it but it could surely be extended to any principle in the world.

Not living in a house while there are homeless people, not eating while there are hungry americans etc. Not working in certain sectors or benefiting from services until there is 100% racial and gender equality and so forth. Im actually not trying to be snarky, but as my friend (who is a lesbian) commented to me “its not the same choosing not to get married, its not a choice for me. You getting married or not in now way affects whether i can so what’s the point?”. 

EDIT – i do, however, support gay marriage. That really wasnt the point of my post

Post # 13
1466 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2012 - Father\'s Vineyard Church/ A Touch of Class Banquet Center

@icetea:  Good for you taking a stand. I am definitely thankful that I live in a state that has marriage equality, but I still feel for those in the LGBT community who are still living in states where it’s not allowed. I don’t understand how we can allow people to vote on equal rights and telling people who they are allowed to love legally. It’s so sad.

Post # 14
1184 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@newname_99:  +1

@icetea:  I appreciate you putting thought into this, but I think refusing to marry (after you have already started planning a wedding) is not the best way to stand for equality. 

Post # 16
5951 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

@icetea:  I applaud your sensitivity and commitment to this issue, I too believe everyone has the right to get married, but what I do not understand is how you abstaining from getting married forces the legal sytem to respond to your desire for Marriage Equality…

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