Post # 16
I bought a ivory bridesmaid dress for my wedding, all the actual bridal gowns I tried on were just not ‘me’. I loved that it was cheap ($300 ish) and it was perfect in ivory, but if you want a color I say go for it!
Post # 17
No one will see it as a “bridesmaid” dress, it is just a dress regardless, and any dress a bride wears on her day will be a wedding dress. It wont take away from you being a bride. I think you should wear whatever you feel most comfortable in, and if its not a white dress, thats totally ok! Its your day.
Post # 18
I felt the EXACT same way! Unfortunately, 3 years ago when I was dress shopping there weren’t any colored gown options. I ended up getting a traditional dress, but our wedding plans changed drastically. This was my inspiration dress:
land this is what I actually wore for our intimate courthouse wedding:
Wear what makes you happy and doesn’t put you in debt! Best wishes!
Post # 19
- Wedding: May 2015 - St Peter\'s Church, East Maitland, and Bella Vista, Newcastle
Also, I meant to add that a friend of mine got married (encore bride) and she wore a red sequinned dress and looked FABULOUS and every inch a bride.
Post # 20
One of my best friends got married in a david’s bridal bridesmaid dress she picked up at the thrift store for $7. It cost her more to get it altered, but fortunately it was her size so the alterations were minimal.
My Aunt got married in a gothic loooking red satin dress covered in black lace. It was a wiccan themed wedding, though… since y’know, she’s wiccan. The wedding was on Halloween too. Another Aunt got married at her friend’s Halloween party (in costume).
A college friend got married in a tartan dress while her DH wore a kilt.
Do what you want! 🙂
Post # 21
All I am saying is that OP might be surprised by what she actually likes once it is on her. Dont rule out white before you have even given it a chance 🙂 No need to be so condecending towards people who do feel a certain way about “white wedding dresses”, Obviously your opinion differs to mine but I dont feel the need to have a dig at you or your beliefs.
Post # 22
shouldn’t it be the dress of her dreams? Not “ours” as you worded it.
Post # 23
dezzie: “All I am saying is that OP might be surprised by what she actually likes once it is on her.” Sure. That happens sometimes. If that had been what you had previously said, I wouldn’t have disagreed with you quite so much. However, I still feel like what you said before was unhelpful because the OP KNOWS what she wants and what she would be comfortable in. She isn’t asking hey should I get a white dress or not. She saw white dresses and wasn’t interested. What she is after is SUPPORT in her desire to dress in a way that would make her comfortable and match her personality, and she’s already stated that that would mean a darker colored bridesmaid dress. She knows what she wants and is just looking for support because it is a bit untraditional.
“No need to be so condecending towards people who do feel a certain way about “white wedding dresses”, Obviously your opinion differs to mine but I dont feel the need to have a dig at you or your beliefs.” I’m not sure what I said that made you think I was being condescending or having a dig at you or your believes. I’m sorry that you perceived it that way. The only thing I said about you was that if you want a white dress that’s fine and your choice, maybe you thought that was sarcastic? It wasn’t. The rest of what I said was about being supportive of the OP even if it’s not what you or anyone else might want for themselves and about how I relate to the OP because I also wouldn’t be happy with white either.
But this is all besides the point of the thread. The point is, YES OP you should wear what makes you comfortable and happy and ROCK that colored bridesmaid dress and be proud of it!
Post # 24
I’m assuming that was a typo and she meant your not our, but that was part of my point in my first post, I’ll sum it up again in case I was unclear before. It is unhelpful to encourage her to shop around for the “white dress of her dreams” because her dream dress is not white, even if yours is. She knows what dress she wants and is seeking affirmation and support in her choice to go with her dream dress instead of the traditional white dress that society and tradition pressure women to buy.
Post # 25
I hope it was a typo also. Because I’m 100% with you. What you or I would want, she may not want the same thing. Everyone likes what they like.
Post # 26
You are the bride so it is your choice completely and as long as you feel comfortable and confident then why not!
Post # 27
There was definitely a period of time where if you weren’t a virgin and people knew it, you would be totally crapped on if you tried wearing a white dress… but I think there was a definite time when the fashion for white fancy clothing had more to do with conspicuous consumption and a display of wealth than it had to do with a display of purity. I mean, have you ever washed clothing by hand? It is fucking hard, boring and time consuming! Now imagine it’s the 1650s, enzyme activated washing powders won’t be invented for 400 years and you’ve got to get white clothing pristine. You’re only going to bother if someone is specifically paying you to do it, because if you have to be washing your own clothing etc., you can’t take that much time out of your day.
Oh, and when you’ve got lye and lye based soaps, your fabric falls apart a lot faster, especially when you really have to scrub those stains out.
Anyway, my point is – don’t let the pearl clutchers of the Georgians through the fifties ruin the TRUE spirit of a wedding dress: spending as much money as possible on a single outfit.