Post # 1
I got engaged to my high school sweetheard when I was 19. We called off the wedding about four months beforehand.
I think that somewhere in my parents’ basement, they still have my old wedding gown that I had gotten.
Last weekend, I asked my husband (married on paper, still planning the actual wedding) what he thought about me wearing it for the sake of saving money. It would probably have to be let out a little bit because that was five years ago, and I’m not even sure if my parents still have it around.
At first, he seemed offended that I would suggest such a thing–wearing a dress meant for another man. I see his point, and he sees my point: That it’s not like I had actually gotten married in it and we would save a big chunk of change.
Is there any sort of protocol or etiquette rule for this situation?
Post # 3
I’m doing the same thing. Its a pronovias, so its a really lovely dress. I’ve had it tucked away in a closet for about a decade now. My Fiance doesn’t care as long as I’m happy. A few friends are helping me brainstorm ideas on ways to change it up a bit so that I’ll be excited about it. I just cant justify spending money on a new dress if I have one that will do.
Post # 4
In this situation I it’s up to the opinion of your SO. If he’s not okay with it why don’t you try selling the old dress and using the money for a new one.
Post # 5
I have a friend who did this. She had spent a lot of money on finding the right dress and so kept it until she eventually married her next partner.
Personally, I wouldn’t – I chose my dress with my OH in mind and I don’t think I’d want to wear it for someone else. I’d want to choose something different.
Post # 6
I’m pretty much practical and unsentimental, so I totally see where you’re coming from, it makes sense!
But, if it makes your fiance uncomfortable, you might want to sell the old dress. You really don’t want him to have thoughts of your previous relationship in his mind when he looks at you in the wedding day!
Post # 7
If you’re practical and unsentimental, it’s not that bad an idea. I probably wouldn’t be able to do it, and I’m practical, but for some reason it wouldn’t sit right with me. (I’ve been engaged twice, never married, and now I’m “in waiting” so I can easily imagine this.)
But if you loved it and you can maybe change it up a bit, I think it could work out. Good luck!
Post # 8
I am doing the same thing my Mother-In-Law to be is in love with my dress and I paid 2800.00 I have been married and bought an amazing new dress and divorced 5 months later! This go around Im not being the do it right bride. I am going to get a shorter reception dress to be comfortable in.
Post # 9
It’s a moot point anyway. I had given my parents permission to donate it or give it away. They gave it to the young man who painted their house, he was engaged and his fiance didn’t have a dress yet so they showed it to him and he thought it might fit her. So they came over and tried it on and apparently it looked beautiful on her and she loved it it! I’m so glad someone was able to use it!
But… Back to the drawing board.
Post # 10
I did it! I bought my dress years ago (like 10 or more) for an engagement that ended before the date and invitations were even picked out. My dress was perfect for me, it moved cross country with me since I knew it was going to always be THE dress. I still looked when I got engaged to my now husband and we talked about me getting a new dress. I worried about his feelings more than he did, he did not care in the least if I wore my old one. I took it out of it’s bag and fell in LOVE all over again, well once I got it altered to fit right, lol. And we saved a ton of money 🙂
Post # 11
@khamilton: oh… i like this idea
Post # 12
I don’t consider wedding gowns as being “meant” for the one you marry. I feel that wedding dresses represent you and how you feel beautiful. I say go for it.
I actually bought my dress a few weeks before we were officially engaged (we had been discussing getting married and if we were ready financially and decided yes we could do it). I admit any bride buying her dress before being engaged is a bit suprising but it was my dream dress deeply discounted and I jumped on it. I joked with him that he might not be THE ONE but that dress is 🙂 lol