(Closed) Wearing a long dress to a wedding that is not black-tie

posted 9 years ago in Parties
  • poll: What do you usually wear as a guest to a wedding?
    Short cocktail dress : (12 votes)
    24 %
    long dress : (3 votes)
    6 %
    depends on the season/venue : (32 votes)
    64 %
    other (explain below) : (3 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 3
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: May 2010

    I have a friend who rocks her beautiful long dress to weddings that are “cocktail attire”. She looks great and I wouldn’t give her a second look!

    Post # 4
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    3162 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2010

    What kind of attire did they indicate for the wedding? I think if it’s semi-formal it might be OK (well, maybe not for the one where the bride gave you the death stare). If it’s cocktail attire you might look overdressed.

    Post # 5
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    4480 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: March 2010 - Calamigos Ranch

    I might ask her why the cold reaction, because I don’t see anything wrong with wearing a long black dress to a non-black tie wedding if it doesn’t look like a ballgown. 😉

    Post # 6
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    4567 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    Can you post pictures of the dress? That would be awesome!

    Post # 7
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    545 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    I would aks her, too, about her problem with the dress.  She might think it’s too dressy, too casual, wrong color, it’s her wedding color, or she might have felt like you should have put extra effort in choosing a dress (i.e. buy a new dress just for her wedding), or any other reasons. I am only guessing here. While I don’t see any problems with the dress, but I also feel like she could have many problems with it for some reason that only you would know if you ask her.

    Post # 8
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    2066 posts
    Buzzing bee

    Without seeing your dress/knowing your friend/knowing your friend’s wedding, my first thought was a long gown is too dressy for a non black tie optional wedding.  But that’s just me and my first reaction based on the information you provided.

    Post # 9
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    5494 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I think it’s really hard to say without seeing the dress and knowing what the specified dress code is.  Also, it would largely depend on how dressed up people get in your circle and area of the country.

    Post # 10
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    40 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    Some people believe black is not suppose to be worn at a wedding, so maybe its not even the length. Black to some people means mourning and thats definitly not what any bride is going for when planning their big day!

    Post # 11
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    900 posts
    Busy bee

    Is it in Philly?  I think long for semi-formal would be fine.  Maybe even for cocktail attire.  I think the further west or south you move the harder it is to pull off.

    Post # 13
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    1230 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    I think a long, black dress would be fine for a fall wedding in downtown Chicago.

    Post # 14
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    3332 posts
    Sugar bee

    I think this dress would be totally great to wear to the wedding.  I mean, how could you go wrong in a classic, black Halston?!

    Post # 15
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    2207 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    I wear long dresses all the time to wedings.  its totally fine provided it fits with the formality and season.  HOWEVER – are her BMs wearing black long dresses?  That might explain the cold look..

    Post # 16
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    530 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2009

    some people don’t think black should be worn to  a wedding — maybe that’s it?

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