Post # 1
I’m meeting with a jeweller this weekend to look at wedding bands. I have a uniquely shaped engagement ring, in so much as there’s not going to be anything off the shelf that fits it perfectly even though the ring itself is from a high street jeweller. I love my engagement ring, and have never seen another that I’ve liked anywhere near as much. That said, I’m not sure whether I want to get a shaped band made to fit it, and it’s hard to picture until you have one there. I don’t like how it looks with gaps (i.e. with a shaped band that’s not a perfect fit), but equally I’m not sure about switching it to my right hand and wearing a band alone, or even just skipping the band and wearing the e-ring alone!
I wear my e-ring all of the time except bed and working out. Fiance isn’t bothered if I continue to wear the e-ring or not – he actually assumed you stop wearing it when it’s replaced with a wedding band. It does actually fit my right hand better as I’ve lost weight since we got engaged, so I’d potentially need to get it resized to continue wearing it as I will keep losing weight. I don’t see how I can get a band that looks good with the e-ring and on it’s own due to the shaping. I thought about getting some silver/CZ ones to try but I’m never going to get the good fit that way. Realistically I can’t afford to get two wedding bands.
Here’s my engagement ring:
This is the ring I thought I’d buy to go with it, until I realised I didn’t like the gap:
This is the kind of thing I’d probably end up with if I went for a shaped band:
These are the kinds of ring I really like, if I were going for a standalone band. Even without the diamonds but a twist, potentially.
What do you think you’d do, if it were yours?
Post # 2
I had the same issue and originally wanted a shaped band that sat perfectly flush, but in the end, once I saw the molds, I went with a shaped band and a slight gap as I liked that the rings looked distinct.
As to whether to wear a band separately, that really depends on if you’re happy to wear your engagement ring on your other hand. It wasn’t an option for me personally as I still wanted to wear my engagement ring on my left hand, and I don’t like the look of my band on it’s own (even though it’s not that crazy a shape; it’s a wishbone shape), so it was wear both on the left hand, or wear my engagement ring on my right and get a plain, straight band for my left.
Another option is to actually get both a standalone ring and a shaped band so that you can mix and match if you want to.
Post # 3
I think if I was you I would get a wedding band made to fit the engagement ring and for your birthday after the wedding or your first anniversary get a stand alone ring. Even though my ring isn’t a unique shape I plan on getting 2, one plain band to wear with my pave engagement ring and a pave band to wear alone.
Have you checked that the jeweler you bought it from doesn’t have a matching band?
Post # 4
The jeweller said they could check with the wholesaler, but if there is a band to fit and I ordered one, I’d have to pay in full and wouldn’t be able to return it. I decided not to take the risk on that, although there’s still time so maybe I should check it out further.
Post # 5
what if someone like David Klass made it? he can customize something that would fit perfectly to that if your biggest goal was to get it to sit flush.
Post # 6
I would probably get a shaped band custom made for it.
Although I plan to only wear my engagement ring. But it’s a different ring and different context!
Post # 7
The shape is not that uncommon honestly, I think if you shop around you will find something to fit. If not I would get a band custom made. It’s too pretty not to wear on your left hand.
Post # 8
I have an odd shaped engagement and nothing would fit my ring either. I wasn’t happy with the gaps and had custom made ring to sit flush with my engagement ring. Initially I didn’t like the idea that I couldn’t just wear my wedding ring alone. But I’ve realised that whenever I worry about damaging my engagement ring, I worry about my wedding ring too so just take them both off.
I went to a UK high street jeweller for my custom ring and it took them a couple of months to make. I put the order in around the end of September and it came back to me in between Christmas and New Year, due to the other Christmas and valentines orders in. Just a heads up if you are getting married in March.
Post # 9
Thanks for all the feedback. I thought I’d update with what I decided on! I didn’t like the way the custom shaped bands were shaped on my finger, but I didn’t like the thicker bands with cut-outs where the band was effectively straight on the finger but still allowed the ring.
I’ve chosen a dainty v-shaped diamond set band which I think complements my e-ring nicely! I could also wear it alone though if I ever want to for any reason. My engagement ring will be getting replated before the wedding so please excuse the state of it, and I believe the band in the picture is a sterling silver sample. 🙂
Post # 10
Great choice it looks great! 🙂