(Closed) Wearing a wedding ring when you aren’t engaged (or even in a relationship).

posted 8 years ago in Rings
Post # 3
3942 posts
Honey bee

Ya I work with a girl who is wearning an engagement ring, but shes not in a relationship. Its sooo beautiful and when she walked in my office I was gushing all over the place. She said it was a gift from her mom? Strange.

Post # 4
6661 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2010

Well is it an actual engagement ring (like big center stone) or is it some type of design? If I were still single at this point in my life (almost 30) I would actually be in the market for a diamond ring to wear on that finger. Not an engagement ring, more along the lines of a David Yurman ring with only diamonds if you know what I mean.

If she’s wearing an actualy e-ring that’s kind of strange. I mean it’s one thing to wear it out to bars when you don’t want to get hit on, but around in her daily life is silly.

Post # 5
1325 posts
Bumble bee

Ok, yeah. I find that a bit strange. Once or twice I have worn a ring on my left hand when in a relationship where I thought marriage would be the final outcome. 

However, completely single is…just strange. Why choose that finger? A finger known to have symbolic meaning when adorned with a ring. There … you know.. wouldn’t be another one on the OTHER hand. lol

Unless the person is unfortunate and has fingers that don’t match in size. That happens. Where the left ring finger is slightly different than the right ring finger. Just enough to making wearing a certain ring only an option on one finger.

Post # 6
363 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

That is really odd. I’m in sales and one of old my coworkers wore a plain band sometimes on calls because of some comments she would get when on some meetings. I always thought it was a bit strange…can’t you jut say you aren’t interested? And if you’re 100% single no guy is going to approach you if you have a big ring on your left hand!

Post # 9
1493 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

@BluegrassBridetoBee: A good friend of mine wore a fake engagement ring when she worked at Men’s Warehouse or one of those places because she got hit on so much. If I were the girl mentioned in the OP, I would have put that ring in a safety deposit box or something like that until she meets someone or something along that line.

Post # 10
3482 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I’ve known unmarried people who wear rings on their left ring finger just because they like the way the rings look on that finger. They usually wear rings on their other fingers as well, though, so yeah, I think it’s a bit strange that she’s just wearing the one big engagementy one on that particular finger.

Post # 11
13096 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

Definitely a little odd to me but I guess to each their own.  I’d wear it on my right hand though if I were her.

Post # 12
11325 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

I have a diamond and sapphire band my parents got for me that I used to wear on my left ring finger when I worked in DC. I felt like it got me out of some unwanted attention. 

I don’t really think its THAT strange she’s wearing the ring. Why should she have to wait until she’s engaged to wear an heirloom? 

Post # 14
962 posts
Busy bee

When I was 14 I went in to my mother’s jewelery box and put on my grandmother’s engagement ring…just because it was pretty. That was up until my track coach asked (in front of the whole team) if I was married. Everyone started laughing at me. The worst part was that I then couldn’t get the ring off (it was stuck!) and my mom had to get it cut off of my finger. Sorry, this thread just reminded me of that story.

But, yes, a grown woman wearing an ering is a little off.

Post # 15
3049 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

Why does it matter if she is wearing an e-ring when she’s not engaged? I’ve always wondered why this was a big deal. If you want to wear any kind of ring on any finger then that should be fine. Of course you’re going against the symbolism… but again, who cares?! People always say, “Well then every guy is going to think you’re taken”. Well, maybe she isn’t looking to get a guy to ask her out on a date. Maybe she would rather date a close friend (who knows she’s not taken) then a random guy on the street.

I wore a ring at my internship everyday because old men would always hit on me. When I started wearing the ring, the harassment stopped completely. I could go through the trouble of being harrassed and saying I’m not interested… or I could put a ring on and end everything without a word. I chose the easy way out and loved it!

Post # 16
1559 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I personally used to wear a non-diamond ring on my left hand, but that wasn’t because I wanted to ward off attention, but because it was the most comfortable finger to wear it on! 

I don’t really like wearing rings on my right hand- it’s my predominant hand, and having a ring or bracelet in the way when I’m working drives me crazy.

So I would always wear my rings on my left, either on my ring finger or my middle finger. 


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