(Closed) Wearing an ivory lace dress to someone else's rehearsal dinner?

posted 8 years ago in Dress
  • poll: Is it okay to wear a white/ivory dress with lace to someone else's rehearsal dinner?

    It's fine.

    It's a no-no.

    Only if you ask the bride first.

  • Post # 17
    705 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: February 1993

    I just wouldn’t do it. 

    Post # 18
    3176 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I wouldn’t do it and I would probably say something like, “why the heck would someone where that to a wedding event?” in my head. Even if everyone else in attendance thought it was ok – I’d still think it was an odd choice.

    Post # 19
    1924 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    Nope I definitely would NOT do it!  

    Post # 20
    963 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    There are SO many other clothing options out there, so yes, I think it’s odd to wear white/ivory/lace to a rehearsal dinner or any wedding event. Sure the bride may not notice or care, but is it really that hard to just avoid the situation entirely and wear something colored?

    Post # 21
    1278 posts
    Bumble bee

    I don’t think it is a good idea.  There are many other options and save the ivory/white dress for a different occasion.  

    And even if the bride says it is okay, all the other women will be silently judging.

    Post # 22
    3570 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    The fact that you are even asking this question means you shouldn’t do it.

    Post # 24
    1042 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I couldn’t tell you what a single person wore to my rehersal dinner, but I was in jeans and a plaid shirt, so who am I to say?

    I don’t think it’s a big deal at all.



    Post # 25
    1040 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    I think most brides would be ticked.  Not all, but most.

    I have no idea a polite non-bridezilla way to say, “Please don’t wear that…”  Maybe you or your Fiance sweetly mention, “Oh, By The Way, 

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    Uyzie is wearing a very similar dress!  You might want to pick something different so you don’t look identical to the bride.”

    ??  This is a tough one.  

    Post # 26
    7899 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2012 - Pelican Grand Beach Resort

    Personally, I consider the white/ivory rule to be for the wedding day. I’m in the party of brides shouldn’t wear white or ivory to pre-wedding events anyway, but I don’t think it’s terrible if they do. My point is that I would expect a bride would not be in white or ivory at a rehearsal dinner, so wear what you want.

    If you are unsure, just ask the bride.

    Post # 27
    288 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2012

    I don’t think wearing white to your rehearsal dinner is a “thing” anywhere except the internet! That said, while it probably wouldn’t bother me if someone did it, I probably wouldn’t make that choice!

    Post # 28
    501 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    If it is the groom’s sister I would just have him say something about it and have him ask her not to wear the ivory dress. She may not know (I know I wouldn’t have known better in my early 20’s).

    Post # 29
    872 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    I would personally ask. 

    If you had nothing else to wear but that then I would tell the bride my little dilemma. 

    However if you have another dress, or nice outfit to wear I would choose that instead. 

    Post # 30
    569 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    There’s a whole rainbow of colours out there. No need to wear ivory. Even if the bride is okay with it, who wants to be that girl?

    Which is how I would handle it. I would say: “Sure, I mean if you want to be that girl and you can handle the comments…”

    Should put her off.

    Post # 31
    569 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    Actually on reflection, use the grapevine here. Get your sisters to talk to her instead.

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