- 8 years ago
- Wedding: February 1993
I just wouldn’t do it.
I just wouldn’t do it.
I wouldn’t do it and I would probably say something like, “why the heck would someone where that to a wedding event?” in my head. Even if everyone else in attendance thought it was ok – I’d still think it was an odd choice.
Nope I definitely would NOT do it!
There are SO many other clothing options out there, so yes, I think it’s odd to wear white/ivory/lace to a rehearsal dinner or any wedding event. Sure the bride may not notice or care, but is it really that hard to just avoid the situation entirely and wear something colored?
I don’t think it is a good idea. There are many other options and save the ivory/white dress for a different occasion.
And even if the bride says it is okay, all the other women will be silently judging.
The fact that you are even asking this question means you shouldn’t do it.
Wow, 64 votes in 30 minutes! I was not expecting that many responses!
So, for a bit of background, my soon to be sister in law showed me a picture of the dress she bought for our rehearsal dinner, and from the tiny picture on her phone, it appeared to be a short ivory cocktail dress with either lace or crochet embellishments on it. (It was hard to tell b/c the picture was so small.)
I didn’t want to be Bridezilla-ish, so I told her it was cute and changed the subject. But of course, it bugged me a little, so I asked my sisters for their opinion, but they both told me that they had never heard of brides wearing white to their rehearsal dinners and that it wasn’t a big deal. Personally, a lot of my friends wore white dresses to their rehearsal dinners, and I had planned on doing the same, but I’m now thinking of wearing a red dress, since it’s one of the colors of our wedding.
Not sure if that changes anything, and I’m not quite sure what to do. I’d like to see the dress again, but I don’t want to be bridezilla-y. If it makes any difference, my fiance’s sister is very young (very early 20’s), so she might not realize that I might have any thoughts on it. Also, my fiance grew up in a more rural area, and he says that people in their hometown wore shorts to rehearsal dinners, so she probably doesn’t know there’s a taboo about it. (At least, I hope so, because otherwise, she might be doing it on purpose. And I hope not, because I made her a bridesmaid!)
Thanks for the help, bees! 🙂
I couldn’t tell you what a single person wore to my rehersal dinner, but I was in jeans and a plaid shirt, so who am I to say?
I don’t think it’s a big deal at all.
I think most brides would be ticked. Not all, but most.
I have no idea a polite non-bridezilla way to say, “Please don’t wear that…” Maybe you or your Fiance sweetly mention, “Oh, By The Way,
?? This is a tough one.
Personally, I consider the white/ivory rule to be for the wedding day. I’m in the party of brides shouldn’t wear white or ivory to pre-wedding events anyway, but I don’t think it’s terrible if they do. My point is that I would expect a bride would not be in white or ivory at a rehearsal dinner, so wear what you want.
If you are unsure, just ask the bride.
I don’t think wearing white to your rehearsal dinner is a “thing” anywhere except the internet! That said, while it probably wouldn’t bother me if someone did it, I probably wouldn’t make that choice!
If it is the groom’s sister I would just have him say something about it and have him ask her not to wear the ivory dress. She may not know (I know I wouldn’t have known better in my early 20’s).
I would personally ask.
If you had nothing else to wear but that then I would tell the bride my little dilemma.
However if you have another dress, or nice outfit to wear I would choose that instead.
There’s a whole rainbow of colours out there. No need to wear ivory. Even if the bride is okay with it, who wants to be that girl?
Which is how I would handle it. I would say: “Sure, I mean if you want to be that girl and you can handle the comments…”
Should put her off.
Actually on reflection, use the grapevine here. Get your sisters to talk to her instead.
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