(Closed) Wearing an older, borrowed wedding dress?

posted 6 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
156 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I haven’t done this but I know lots of women have worn their mother’s dress and made changes to it to make it more modern. I know from your other post that your dress doesn’t fit, but is there any room in the budget at all for something else? Even $50-100? I’m thinking if you made a post on the classifieds with your desired style/budget/size, you might be able to find something. I’ve seen some great dresses super cheap on the classifieds.  Also don’t forget about ebay- I wouldn’t go with any Chinese knockoff dresses, but I know I’ve seen pre-owned gowns from legitimate designers go at a very low price. I found a Demetrios classic A-line sample, still with tags at our Goodwill for $40! It’s really nice that your friends mom offered up her dress and at least you know you have an option. Keep in mind that if you are considering paying someone to do that many alterations, you might be better off putting that money toward a more current design you won’t have to alter so much or even at all if you’re lucky.

What size/style are you looking for? I am currently looking for an inexpensive gown to change into at my reception so I’ve been dress-hunting a lot lately. I can keep an eye out for you!

Post # 4
1426 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

My Mom, in 1976, borrowed her cousins’ wedding dress, from the 1960s, because she couldn’t afford a dress. But, she had to deal with whatever the dress had to offer and give it back. It worked for her.

Post # 5
1855 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I think you should definitely ask to borrow it for a little while!

Seriously, you can try it on, spend some time with it..etc. You can take the dress somewhere that does alterations, and get a vision of its potential.

The way I’m looking at it, is that you have nothing to lose.


Post # 6
3886 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Honestly, if I’d had someone willing to loan me a dress, I’d have jumped at the chance. The dress is such a huge expense, and picking one out is a huge chore (starts out fun but turns sucktastic pretty fast). I’d have been thrilled to have an offer like this!

Post # 7
452 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Do you have a pic we can see? If she’s going to let you do anything to the dress, I’m sure it can be altered to look more current. Lace and beading are pretty timeless for the most part, and if your taking the poofy sleeves off, I’m sure no one will be able to tell it’s a few decades old.

AND on the plus side- NO ONE else will have a dress like yours!!! Completely unique!

Post # 8
7293 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2011

I altered an older dress and i loved it! I would do it!! It will be completely unique 🙂

Also wed love to see some pics 😉

Post # 10
4352 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

My gma offered me her wedding dress to wear to prom (apparently it was yellow enough that it didn’t scream wedding dress to her anymore) and I seriously considered it. It was a gorgeous gown and if I hadn’t fallen in love with another dress I probably would have worn it for my wedding.

Post # 11
375 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@Pinksapphire:  Sounds like a great idea! A beautiful dress that you have the freedom to alter to suit you….for free?! I’d be jumping at that!!

Post # 12
577 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I’d be all about that!

Unfortunately there does not exist a wedding gown in my family that would be for me. My aunt has a wedding gown that might fit me but it is SUPER poofy and definitely not to my taste, plus I don’t think she’d offer it up anyway.

Post # 14
9 posts
  • Wedding: November 2012

The dress looks gorgeous! Remove the sleeves, I think you’ll look stunning in it!

Post # 15
3772 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Pinksapphire:  OMG that has a lot of the same details that my mother’s dress has! (she got married in 87) If I had came close to fitting in her dress (I’m quite a bit taller) and if it was in slightly better condition I would have JUMPED on the opportunity to alter it! First on my list would have been to chop the sleeves and work on making the waist fit me like a glove! What is the height difference between the two of you? I had issues with the torso not being long enough on my Mom’s dress

Post # 16
11 posts
  • Wedding: May 2013

I think that dress has amazing potential once the sleeves are removed.  Go for it! 

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