(Closed) Wearing Black to a Wedding

posted 11 years ago in Dress
  • poll: Is it okay to wear a black dress to a wedding?



  • Post # 32
    377 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2009

    I think the no red at weddings is a much older more conservative rule but  @LGenz: sums up my feelings on the issue.  A conservative red dress is probably fine in most people’s eyes but if you are going to wear a red gown or red cocktail dress I think there are still people out there who will think badly of you.

    Post # 33
    377 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2009

    Sorry – double post ๐Ÿ˜‰

    Post # 34
    86 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    In the northeast I would guess at least half the guests wear black, whether it’s all black or punched up with color.   I have also worn a (not super fancy) bright red dress on a few occasions, and only heard compliments about it! To be fair, I have only ever been to late afternoon or evening weddings though, where the majority of guests are around my age.  But c’mon, it’s 2010! 

    Post # 35
    375 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2010

    I’m honestly surprised anyone would think this is an issue these days.  I’ve been to 23 weddings in the last 5 yrs (I counted them the other day b/c  I was curious ๐Ÿ™‚ ), and I can’t think of a single time where this was an issue.  In fact, I would say black is the most popular dress color at weddings I attend (for women of varying ages too).

    Post # 36
    305 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 1991

    @vaness13181: Black is a color for mourning.  Wearing black to a wedding is a symbol that you do not approve of the marriage.  It’s a step below not attending.  The exception is if you’re specifically told it’s a black and white wedding. 

    Red is generally not worn because it is an attention-grabbing color.  No one should be trying to grab attention from the bride.

    Post # 37
    622 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    @Danadelphia, I think the outfit you put together was fabulous– you have GREAT fashion sense!

    I think it depends on what region you live in as to whether or not wearing black or red is deemed inappropriate. In the past year, I’ve been to three weddings and there were tons of women wearing black dresses. In fact, I just went to an extremely elegant wedding a month ago, and I would say more than half the women there wore black dresses.

    Personally, the only things that would bother me is if someone showed up at my wedding wearing a white wedding dress, a clown suit, or their birthday suit! ๐Ÿ˜‰

    Post # 38
    2042 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    Looking back at my wedding pics, I count at least 5 women who wore black dresses. I didn’t even notice that day.

    Post # 39
    5166 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    i think some people just make up their own rules. personaly i go for bright colors but i dont see anything wrong with black to a wedding.

    Post # 40
    1486 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2011

    I would only be insulted in my mom or Future Mother-In-Law wore black – anyone else I wouldn’t mind at all.

    -In terms of the outfit – it looks awesome! Love the dress and accessories.

    Post # 41
    442 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2009

    This may be a bit much, but my first though on reading this was this:


    Alright, so no white, no red, no black… I’m just waiting for it to be no eating, no drinking, no talking!  Gasp- somone TALKED OVER THE BRIDE AT THE RECEPTION!!! Dear god.


    Sorry, I just think that some people get a little too uptight about these sort of things.  Plus, all my bridesmaids plus about 50 guests wore black at my wedding, and my mom was in a floor length sleeveless red gown.  They all (especially my mom) looked fabulous.  There is a point, of course- wearing a floor length white gown is ridiculous, but come on- I’ve seen people get upset if there is a SPLASH of white on a dress.  Chillax, my friends.  Chillax.

    Post # 42
    343 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I think it’s outdated. A little black dress is my go-to outfit for weddings. I just wore a solid black dress to a wedding in June. I wore lime green heels with it and got a few compliments. So much about weddings is changing right now, so I would never worry about what older guests might say about me wearing black. At the aforementioned June wedding, those guests were probably too busy gossiping about the bride and groom’s ‘first look’ or the bride’s pink shoes to comment on all the female guests wearing black. There have been several guests wearing black at weddings I’ve attended in the midwest and on the east and west coasts. Psh, a wedding invitation is an excuse for me to hit up White House Black Market!

    Post # 43
    1456 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2011

    I don’t like to wear black to weddings, but it’s hardly a universal rule. I just don’t like black all that much!

    Post # 44
    645 posts
    Busy bee

    Um, I already voted on your other post – but the Nine West Jasmina’s are a great pick! My BM’s are all wearing them in gold! ๐Ÿ˜‰

    Post # 45
    1585 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    Can you dress me everyday?!

    I had no idea you shouldnt wear red or black I mean seriously? pretty soon guest should wear pink, blue, purple green etc!

    I think the black dress is a go 2 dress ALWAYS for all types of events!

    Post # 46
    114 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2010 - The Pearl S. Buck House

    dude, my MOM is wearing all black to my wedding. It’s fine! I’m not a fan of pure white to a wedding, just sayin- not starting nuthin- but a cute black dress is perfectly acceptable. I mean, don’t wear a black mourning veil…


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