Post # 47
Holy Cow, I’ve been to about 200+ weddings (used to work for a caterer) and have NEVER thought black to be inappropriate!!!
I’m also someone who DOES follow every rule. I do not wear white between Labor and Memorial Day. I think Red means you’ve slept with the husband (but only giggle when people wear it). And white/cream at a wedding is just RUDE.
I also live in NYC, where everyone’s wardrobe is black.
BLACK IS FINE!!!!! it can be festive!
Post # 48
I almost always wear black to weddings. Sometimes I wear red. I have never heard about the red thing before, but that could also be cultural, because in Chinese tradition, red is good luck!
Post # 49
Practically half of my wardrobe is black! (suits, fall/winter clothes, you know) I think a black dress is classy, sophisticated and is completely appropriate.
Post # 50
Black is definitely okay for a wedding! I was just picking out my outfit for a wedding I’m going to in September, and I was deciding between two of my favorite dresses, which both happen to be black.
Looking through pictures of my wedding in June, there were a lot of people in black. It just makes sense; the LBD is so versatile.
Post # 51
@CoffeeHound: I have to completely disagree with you. Black is a color for mourning…when you are at a funeral. Perhaps you’re right and wearing black to a wedding is a symbol that you don’t approve of the marriage, but to what culture are you referring? Surely not American. The LBD is a wedding staple. I’ve seen multiple people, including myself, wear black to a wedding. Uh, tuxes are usually black or charcoal…does that mean the groomsmen don’t approve??? This doesn’t make sense. The rule only applies to female guests??? Black is sophisticated and elegant. I highly doubt Angelina Jolie and various others on the red carpet are in mourning. They are wearing black because they are on the red carpet…a formal event…like a lot of weddings.
As for the red, I also disagree with you. Royal blue and regal purple are attention-getting for that matter. So is bright yellow or kelly green. I mean, what CAN we wear???? No one goes to a wedding and tries to steal the limelight from the bride. But, I also don’t like how it’s all about the bride. There is couple involved here. It’s the bride AND the groom, and we go to a wedding to celebrate their love. This dress code thing is out of hand. White is a no-no and we all know that.
Post # 52
My MOM wore black to the reception and looked gorgeous! I don’t understand why people get so weird about these kind of things
Just noticed the picture itself is in black & white LOL but you get the point. It was one shoulder and up to ger knees and she got compliments all night long!
Post # 53
uhhhhhhh seriously?? i would definitely wear a LBD to any wedding.
Post # 54
I think as long as you have some fun bright accessories, a black dress is totally fine! No reason not too, especially since black usually looks AWESOME on everyone 😛
I would say, black is totally appropriate as long as you’re not going goth.
Post # 55
I love love love “the little black dress” and see nothing wrong with wedding guests wearing black 🙂
However, I should note that in some cultures, its bad luck and inappropriate to wear black. I got a stern lecture from my sister about not wearing black (or even an outfit with a lot of black in it) for her upcoming wedding to a person who comes from a strong (culturally) Thai family. So I suppose keep that in mind.
Post # 56
@meganmp1: LOL, I totally agree.
Post # 57
I think that the biggest difference between black at a wedding and a funeral is the style of the black dress. Most funeral dresses are very covered up. While I have many cute conservative black dresses, most of them would be considered very inappropriate for a funeral.
I think that the LBD is very appropriate for a wedding. Probably not a 10am service with brunch following, but most other times completely appropriate.
Post # 58
Unless there is a cultural reason for avoiding a color, I think this notion is completely outdated. I feel differently about white because I feel like it is a symbolic color meant for the bride. For example, as a guest I would not show up holding a bouquet or wearing a veil. I think wearing white is along the same lines as those symbols.
Post # 59
HMMM seems to me if people stand around at a wedding and gossiping about another guest wearing black or red, those people seriously have no life and need to focus a bit more celebrating the happy couples evening! Evening wedding, this fall, black is fine with me! In fact, I have a black dress in mind for a friends Friday night, formal attire wedding this fall and I chose black bc her colors are wine colors, colors I absolutely love, but did not want to choose a dress similar to those colors in case I blended in with the bridal party! Some of these ettiqute rules are ridiculous!
Post # 60
I love wearing black to weddings because it creates a dark backdrop so that the bride and the wedding party will pop. Just as long as the wedding party is not wearing black.
Post # 61
As of right now a full 95% of people say black is fine, so I’m going to say this is one etiquette rule that is a thing of the past (with the exception of some very specific areas / cultures.) Kind of like the rules for wedding invitations – inner and outer envelope, children listed as “Master Bobby” – most people really aren’t doing this any more.
Remember, it wasn’t so long ago that etiquette said it would be horrifying for women to come to the ceremony without a head covering and gloves. Times change!