(Closed) Wearing black to a wedding?

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Should you wear black as a guest to a wedding?
    Sure, why not? : (54 votes)
    70 %
    No, definately not : (3 votes)
    4 %
    Depends on the season : (4 votes)
    5 %
    Depends on the formality : (16 votes)
    21 %
  • Post # 3
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    596 posts
    Busy bee

    I probably wouldn’t wear black to a daytime wedding just because brighter, lighter colors are my  personal preference for daytime weddings but for a night time wedding, I’m all for black!  I figure that as long as I’m not wearing white, I’m good.

    Post # 4
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    398 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: February 2009

    I think the different between a mother and say guest, is (1) the mother is a focal point of the wedding party and (2) her dress is often more formal (so it would likely look more like she showed up for a funeral than her daughters wedding). 

    It is not uncommon to see female guest sporting the little black dress at a wedding, but lets be honest as a guest you aren’t the center of attention and it is likely that your dress is a bit less formal than the MOTB. As always the case you can dress up your little black dress in a million ways, so that always helps!

    Post # 5
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    54 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: August 2008

    It is an old tradition that people shouldn’t wear black to a wedding. However, people have been breaking this tradition for years already so it’s become pretty accepted.

    Post # 6
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    97 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: April 2009

    I had heard that you shouldn’t wear black to a wedding, so I bought a purple dress for my friend’s evening wedding in January (of course, after see about 50 beautiful LBDs in stores). Out of my group of friends, I was the only person not to wear black!

    Post # 7
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    2022 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I’ve work black to a wedding before.  I think its fine so long as you aren’t MOB or MOG.

    Post # 8
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    1363 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2009

    I think it’s fine even if you are the MOB/MOG.  If you’re smiling, no one will think you’re wearing black because you hate your child’s new spouse. 

    Post # 9
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    765 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2008

    I’m wearing black to my SIL’s wedding in 2 weeks.

    My Mother-In-Law wore black to my wedding.  I didn’t think anything of it.

    Post # 10
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    14183 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    I always heard you aren’t *supposed* to wear black, but it’s SOOOO common now. I did read something about how the mothers shoudn’t wear black, but the mother of the groom should specifically wear a taupe or beigs so she doesn’t take the spotlight away from the bride and her family, which i thought was really dumb. Who’s going to wear taupe to their son’s wedding when there are so many other pretty colors?! LoL. My mom chose red…I just like color =]

    Post # 11
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    3331 posts
    Sugar bee

    I’ve worn black to weddings before and my Bridesmaid or Best Man are wearing black, too.  Personally, it wouldn’t bother if my mom (or his) wanted to wear black, as I had never really heard of the tradition not to wear it because you disapproved of the wedding.  I would probably never think twice about seeing a MOG/MOB in black.

    Post # 12
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    180 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: July 2009

    I have personally worn black to a wedding but it was a very formal black tie affair and EVERONE wore black except the bride practically! And it was in the evening.

    Also… my wedding is in the afternoon in the middle of July and is a rather informal event so black would not be appropriate for my wedding. (except maybe men in suits) the groomsmen are wearing chocolate brown suits. But my Mother-In-Law was teasing that she would wear black to pretend that she was mourning her son getting married since he’s an only child! I thought this was hilarious but you must understand that we have a great relationship and I’m not worried about it at all…

    And I would much rather she wear black then white =D (A friend of mine’s Mother-In-Law showed up in white dress that looked like a wedding dress…. then was asked to purchase another dress before the wedding!!!) to funny….

    Post # 13
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    1813 posts
    Buzzing bee

    formal night time weddings black is OK, but I think it is best for moms to avoid it in general unless the couple is OK w/ it

    Post # 14
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    1 posts
    Wannabee
    • Wedding: December 2009

    I absolutely think black is ok for weddings – both for guests and for MOB/MOG. I am getting married in December in the evening and my mom is wearing floor-length black. And I love it! First of all, she ALWAYS wears black (as do I) in real life so why wouldn’t she wear black on the happiest day of the year! haha… As was mentioned earlier, if the mother looks unhappy or has vocally made her opinion of the union known, that is a different situation. Black as a wedding guest is also always appropriate…JUST DON’T WEAR WHITE 🙂

    Post # 15
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    124 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: March 2009

    I am totally for wearing black at a wedding, as there are now so many cute black dresses that are out there. My bridesmaids and several of the guests wore black and looked amazing. If you are concerned as a guest, you can always dress it up with some color accessories like a shawl or a sweater and jewelry. Just as others have said, white’s the only thing that really should be avoided.

    Post # 16
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    60 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    The older generation especially tends to view black at a wedding as inappropriate.  Obviously many people don’t have an issue with it, but I think if you are worried about it at all, why not wear something else?  Black is a little overused for formal/dressy occasions anyway.

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