(Closed) Wearing E-Ring to Job Interview?

posted 6 years ago in Career
  • poll: Would you wear your engagement ring to an important job interview?
    Definitely : (71 votes)
    67 %
    Definitely NOT : (15 votes)
    14 %
    Only if I had a tan line/mark where the ring was if I took it off : (3 votes)
    3 %
    Maybe a small substitute ring or a plain band : (15 votes)
    14 %
    As a RHR : (0 votes)
    Other - Please Explain! :) : (2 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 17
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    491 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    I think you should wear it… 1ct is standard, not too big. But I understand what you mean about working in a male dominated place, I am too.  My male coworkers and supervisors have all commented on how big my ring is and made me feel kinda uncomfortable.  But I already have the job so need to worry…

    I am also in my mid twenties, I think for me, if I were to go on a job interview, I’d probably switch out my ering for something less noticeable… I have a 1.63 ct center with halo… on a size 4 finger… so it looks huge, I have ppl ask me if it’s a 3 ct before.. ahhh

    Post # 18
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    25 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    It is illegal for a company to not hire you based on your marital status. In an interview there are even certain questions that it is illegal for a company to ask. Some of those include “do you have any kids?” “Are you married?” and “What religious holidays do you practice?”

    If this company is flying you out for the interview, I’m going to assume that they are doing well and are on top of their business practices. They could cause their company serious damage if they got in trouble for discriminatory hiring.

    With that said, wear you ring and be PROUD of your engagement. If the company is going to discriminate based on your engagement ring, that’s not a company you probably want to work for anyway.

    Post # 20
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    1633 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    @BrandNewBride:  

     

    @Chelsey-Bell:  

     

    Wait? What? Why would your response to a 5 year career goal question have anything to do with your personal life? That’s like answering the “tell me about yourself” question with info about your hometown and your favorite color. 

     

     

     

    It’s so easy to say “if they don’t want to hire me because of my ring, then it’s probably not a place I want to work.” The job market is still not great for many industries. If there is any question in my mind that my ring could adversely effect my chances of getting a job I would leave it at home. If I am interviewing for a job then it’s a company I want to work for. Why else would I put time and effort in preparing for the interview and applying in the first place?

     

    Post # 21
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    3729 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: City, State

    @habibti:  I wouldn’t. Seriously, you don’t have a big e-ring by what they mean and people will know you are married if you change your name or wear your wedding band. It seriously does not impact our hiring decisions at all (other than people find it strange that they took their ring off for the interview.

    When I would take it off– if you have a 1.5 carat ring and are interviewing for a job where you will make under $50k a year or 2 carat for under $70k a year. The only other time I would is if you have an under .5 and are interviewing for a job making over $90k (unless you are interviewing for a PhD level job, then it is more normal to get engaged in grad school). People may notice because it is out of the ordinary.

     

    Post # 22
    Member
    511 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    I am on my 2nd of 3 interviews in the interview process. the first 2 interviews were/are over the phone. The last is in person. I will not wear my eRing. I feel it gives people the impression that I may not need to work or that I could decide to stay home at any time. In fact, when I got it this past summer, my boss did a “hey, just so you know people are asking what your fiancé does for a living and if you plan on continuing to work”. He told them if they were curious/concerned they should ask me as it was none if his business and he was not concerned as he knows me and my goals inside work and in my personal life. But the is the thought process that I don’t want to start with a prospective employer. 

    Post # 23
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    3729 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: City, State

    @BrandNewBride:  @habibti:  I wouldn say that in your interview. My boss would never hire you if you said that because it implies that your marriage and kids got in the way of your career in the past. You can talk about how you are looking forward to focusing your career and here are your goals, but leave your kids out of it.

    In general, it is aways fine if kids come up in the interview, especially over lunch and dinner. You can ask about what towns they live in, how they like the schools, that kind of thing. You can mention that your husband will be at home so you don’t have to worry about doing a double job search. But I would never connect kids and goals in your circumstances.

    Post # 24
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    1150 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    I changed jobs last fall and debated a bit whether to wear my ering to the interview (1ct radiant solitaire, so nothing too flashy). I did end up wearing it, but I tried to keep my left hand in my lap. I don’t think the man interviewing me (now my boss) noticed at all. However, that was in September so there was plenty of time before my wedding.

    I think it’s better to wear it and do your best to make it inconspicuous (don’t talk with your hands!). There’s a good chance it won’t be noticed. If the idea of you being married is a problem, then maybe that’s not a company you want to work for anyways!

    Also, I agree with PPs that the fact that they are flying you out to interview signals that they are seriously interested. 

    Post # 25
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    242 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @Pollywog:  so you’re saying that diamond size reflects what my salary is worth? Darling Husband proposed to me when we were very young and could only afford a .5 carat ring. Are you saying that now, many years and many promotions later I should remove that ring when interviewing because it reflects what I’m worth?

    Post # 26
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    1633 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    @Pollywog:  this ct size/ salary thing is absurd. 

    Post # 27
    Member
    242 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @CurlyCue:  +1000 (or should I say $90k)

    Post # 28
    Member
    511 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    I’m finding it interesting that a few PPs have said something to the effect of “if a company wouldn’t want to hire you because of your ring, it’s probably somewhere you don’t want to work”. This may be true….or not, but there are some circumstances when someone may be willing ro take that not so perfect job- if they’ve been out if work, laid off and in a financial pickle, or just have had a hard time finding the right job. it is my opinion that it’s easy to say “I wouldn’t want to work there anyway”. But there are often other things to consider. 

    Post # 29
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    3729 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: City, State

    @CurlyCue:  I agree, but it is something I have heard gossiped about in other departments. The last thing I would want to do is to lose a job over people’s pettiness (but I wouldn’t want to work in that kind of environment either!)

    Post # 30
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    3729 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: City, State

    @krex:  Not at all! I was saying that if you wear an e-ring to your interview and your e-ring is about what people would expect you would get income wise, it is no big deal. If you have a six figure job and a smaller ring, people may notice in the same way that if you have a 2 ct ring and a non-profit job. It is more likely to get noticed instead of blending into the background.

    In all honesty, when I work only a few people wear e-rings and none of them are correlated to income now. It wouldn’t be notice. In the offices in another department (where I would not want to work anyway for their caddiness), I have heard it mentioned in the same way the big ring/small salary comments have been made. 

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