(Closed) Wearing FMIL's tiara

posted 6 years ago in Accessories
Post # 3
753 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Maybe ask to NOT wear it during the ceremony and just put it on for some of the formal photos? Maybe do one formal photo posed EXACTLY like one of their favorite formal photos and give them the pictures side by side as a gift? I would NOT wear a tiara, something like that is so completely not like me and I want to feel lilke myself on our wedding day. 

Post # 4
2437 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@LadyElva: my Future Mother-In-Law asked me to do the same thing. I am unsure if I will though. She said no hard feelings either way.

Post # 5
5956 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2018

Ok…here’s the thing about tiaras, unless you are:

A.  A Princess

B.  Marrying a Prince

It’s really a leap to make those work at all.

I understand that when she presented it to you and you accepted, you did it to make her feel good, and included and loved, and those are beautiful reasons, but honestly, if you have doubts about it now, imagine how your going to feel looking in the mirror on your big day, hatin on that thing.

If you’ve got a flower girl, she’s prime real estate for a tiara, no shit, girls are cute in things like that, so if you don’t have one, GET ONE and tell your Mother-In-Law she fell in love with it, that way it still gets to be in the wedding, but not on your head.

Otherwise, your going to have to come clean, and that could get tricky if your Mother-In-Law is emotional….and all you can hang your hat on is the fact that you wanted to make her happy and nothing else.

Good luck

Post # 7
8104 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

What if you wear it around the house for a few days, to see if grows on you? For real.

The color purple used to be only for royalty. White fur used to be only for royalty. Certain foods used to be only for royalty. …. Lots of things used to be only for royalty, and then people wised up and said “wait a minute, how come they get all the fun?” Why should you only get to wear a tiara if you’re born into the right rich old family? I say anyone with the slightest inclination should wear a tiara on her wedding day. 

But back to your issue — you mention that your in-laws already feel a little uncomfortable. If you can stand to wear the tiara for 30 minutes, your Mother-In-Law will remember it fondly for 30 years. It will NOT look ridiculous, and you might come to like it.

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