Wearing jeans to a wedding?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 31
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Half the fun of going to a wedding is getting to dress up. Now if we were talking flannel drawstring pj pants at least that would have a comfort advantage, but there are plenty of dresses that are as comfortable as jeans. A pair of dockers is basically khaki jeans, and they’re cheap. Unless it’s the dress code I just don’t get it.

Post # 32
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

jennmariee :  half the fun for you may be dressing up.  Not everyone enjoys that. Not everyone thinks a dress is as comfy as jeans.  Or slacks, for that matter.  Even at work I jump for the days I don’t have to wear my stupid khaki pants.  Heck I wore pink, a color I despise, last Thursday just because it meant I could wear jeans to work (some breast cancer thing).  We’re all different but it doesn’t make us rude, tacky or trashy.

Post # 33
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

skunktastic :  Whoa whoa whoa there, I never even implied anyone was rude, tacky, trashy, pick any negative word…where did that even come from? I just don’t find jeans all that comfortable. Never decreed that anyone had to agree with my opinion, but fair warning, if I ever become empress of the universe all pants will be elastic waist so prepare yourself.

Post # 34
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

skunktastic :  Yeah, I mean, I would generally agree with the sentiment that jeans shouldn’t be worn at most weddings, seeing as most tend to be formal or semi-formal, but there does seem to be a gratuitous amount of pearl-clutching on this subject. Some of these reactions are a bit over the top. They’re jeans, not envelopes full of anthrax. That would be a little rude at a wedding.

I think a lot of people aren’t really considering the possibility of a truly casual wedding. And these days, it’s ok for brides and grooms to wear sneakers or cowboy boots and decorate with burlap and battered old luggage. So on the whole there’s some selectiveness going on with the level of formality “required” for weddings.

Post # 35
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1039 posts
Bumble bee

j_jaye :  yes, this. 

It blows my mind that people think it’s disrespectful 🙄

Post # 36
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6281 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

jennmariee :  sorry, first part of the response was for you, the rest was based on responses in genera.  You are correct, you never said it was tacky, etc.

Post # 37
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Newbee
  • Wedding: February 2017

Doesn’t look very respectful. If they have a dress code allowing jeans that’s fine. If there is a reason you must absolutely wear jeans and they said it was fine ahead of time then that’s ok too.

Post # 38
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2556 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

skunktastic :  No harm 🙂

The pinkification of October gets on my nerves too.

Post # 39
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318 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

As long as my guests make it there,I m not too bothered what they wear,not going to force anybody to wear a dress/suit if it makes them uncomfortable. 

Post # 40
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760 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

It’s not about jeans and weddings, it’s about having enough of class and manners to dress for the occasion. No, it’s not ok to wear an evening gown to a picnic. No, it’s not ok to wear jeans to a black tie wedding.

People who don’t mind their manners are rude

Post # 41
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

we are having a jeans wedding, people would look nuts in full suits or tuxes lol

 

I dont see the problem with jeans… even at a formal wedding if I wore nice black jeans, a white pussybow shirt and nice blazer I doubt people would care, its just the same as a suit but the trouses made out of different type of cotton – I however tend to play safe at weddings and wear a dress instead

Post # 42
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

why is a church in jeans wierd?

we are having a church and jeans… I dont think anyone here wears church dresses and hats and suits etc… to go to church anymore except people 70 and over – the point of the church is everyone welcome, having a dress code negates that

Post # 43
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

julies1949 :  my fiances custom jeans are costing more than my dress by the way… its not fair to assume that jeans are cheap a good designer pair are worth several hundred pounds easily

Post # 44
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Helper bee

btob17 :  I used to have a job that occasionally required me to go to church services. I had to attend one once in a modern church which was quite informal, so I wore my smart grey jeans. I got some funny comments from people who thought I shouldn’t be wearing jeans. Never mind that half the congregation were in jeans! 

 

Jeans at a wedding is no problem if the dress code doesn’t specify otherwise. Jeans in themselves are not disrespectful, not adhering to a specified dress code is. 

Post # 45
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

I considered a super duper casual wedding where anything goes. It would have been a pub and more of a party with friends than anything else. I’d have been fine with guests in jeans, in the same way that I expect my friends to rock up to birthdays in the pub and BBQs in jeans. In any other instance, no.

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