(Closed) Wearing jeans to a wedding!

posted 5 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
1134 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

who the hell wears jeans to a wedding…… geez. im sorry that your having to do thru this. I would def pull your friend aside and tell her that it is going to be formal and that her bf should at least wear khakis and a polo. geez!! having to tell people how to dress…. drives me crazy! Good luck!

Post # 4
46612 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Unless an invitation specifically mentions jeans as acceptable garb, or states country casual etc., I think anyone who has graduated high school should be able to figure out that they are not appropriate wear for a wedding. If they haven’t graduated from high school hopefully we can depend on their mothers to set them straight.

You really should have spoken up at the time she raised the subject, as that was your opening. “Our wedding is semi-formal and we were hoping our guests would forego jeans for the day.”

Post # 5
1177 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I’m not sure I would have been able to restrain myself from saying, “If he can’t dress appropriately for the wedding, it sounds like he doesn’t really want to be there, so maybe he should decline the invitation.”

Post # 6
2808 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@geekspice:  +1. i’m with you on this.

sorry, but jeans aren’t appropriate for a wedding. i know that they make really nice jeans. however, they also make nice dress pants. if someone shows up at my wedding in jeans, i would and will be annoyed. it’s common sense. unless it’s a completely casual, backyard wedding, jeans are not proper wedding attire.

Post # 7
666 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@MeeShell:  She “told” you that he is going to be wearing jeans? Didn’t even “ask” if he could? I’d be quite embarassed. I’ve not replied to any etiquette threads because each to their own, etc. but jeans are not acceptable to wear to a wedding & I would maybe mention that it is a WEDDING & that he may feel uncomfortable being so underdressed. This might help with changing his mind, perhaps? 


Post # 8
137 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

My fiance and our son w orn a pair of jeans to the past three formal events we have been to,two were weddings and and the other a big family party. Both times they wore black smart jeans and a shirt, no one even noticed they were not wearing dress trousers. I dont have the budget to buy dress trousers for every event for our ever growing son and my fiance hates dress trousers as they dont suit or ever fit well. To be honest I dont think you will even notice if you just ask them to please wear black rather then blue jeans, with smart shoes rather then trainers. In fact there was comments about how smart both my boys looked in match black and matching shirts. 

Post # 9
633 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I’ve commented on this subject a few times. My Fiance has worn jeans to 2 weddings…neither was formal, but everyone else was dressed up. At the time, he didn’t own any dress pants, nor did we have the extra money to buy him some. I wasn’t thrilled about it, me being dressed up, but in the end, it didn’t really matter. All the couples cared about was the fact that he showed up to the wedding that we were INVITED to because we are FRIENDS with these people. The last thing I’m going to get annoyed over at my wedding is a pair of jeans on a guest.

Post # 10
5189 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2013

@MeeShell:  let it go. No one is going to be focused on your friend’s boyfriend. Concentrate on the things that will actually have an effect on your wedding. No need to sweat the small stuff.

Post # 11
4439 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

It’s weird that your friend mentioned it before the wedding but on the day of no one is going to pay any attention to him and if they do they’ll be side-eyeing it.


My MOH’s husband, who is a wonderful guy, just DOESN’T own any dress clothes and clearly doesn’t intend to buy any.  At the last wedding we all attended before Darling Husband and I’s he wore a “nice V-neck” with khaki’s that were more like cargo pants.  We all gave him crap about it… and he wore another “nice V neck” to our wedding.  *shrug* It really didn’t bother me.


I don’t even remember if anyone was wearing jeans to our wedding, I bet some were.  The only reason I remember MOH’s Darling Husband wearing a v neck is because we all joked about it.

Post # 12
748 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Honestly wearing jeans to a wedding says to me “Yeah. I really can’t be bothered to even dress up as nicely for you as I do my coworkers and throw on a pair of 10 dollar Old Navy khakis. I’m just here for the open bar”.

I wouldn’t have someone thrown out over it, but I’d call it rude.

Post # 13
7679 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

If one person wears jeans, they’re just embarassing themselves. Just tell her that, and beyond that, don’t worry. No one will pay much attention to him anyway.

Post # 14
2959 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Actually, at my last wedding, several guest wore jeans. I did’t even notice until I saw some of them in the wedding pics. Frankly, I didn’t care during or after the wedding.

Post # 15
4687 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

Who wears jeans to a wedding!! That is so wrong!!!

Post # 16
1844 posts
Buzzing bee

How about caring more about these people taking time to come to your wedding instead of how they are wrapped?

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