Post # 1
So, my mom has her heart set on me wearing her dress. She got married in the 80’s, so its pretty horrible, but it actually has great potential. She told me I can certainly alter it to modernize it and make it fit my style better. I know that it could look great, and have a style in mind to change it to.
However, I really want to go dress shopping (I haven’t yet) and maybe pick out my own dress. I am afraid of going dress shopping and falling in love with a different dress.
has anybody here worn their mothers gown (or know somebody who did)? Did you regret not picking your own dress? Or was the sentimental value worth it?
Post # 3
I wish I could have worn my mom’s dress, but she didn’t preserve it so it yellowed. I do have a friend who altered her mom’s dress to be more modern, and it looked amazing.
Maybe you can go try on dresses to get some ideas on how to alter the dress to make it more you.
Post # 4
I thought about wearing my mom’s dress, but long sleeves for our outdoor wedding in August would have been miserable :-P. If I could have altered it, I think I actually would have liked it a lot, but to be honest I was afraid to ask her if I could cut it up and ended up getting my own. I did wear her veil, though.
I think that as long as you can afford a dress, it would be perfectly fine to go dress shopping. Even if you end up wearing your mom’s dress, it might give you an idea of what’s most flattering on you and how to alter her dress.
Here’s my mom’s dress (made by my grandma):
Post # 5
I’m not wearing my mom’s dress, but I’m wearing a vintage dress that my mom bought for me before I was engaged. I LOVE it now, but we had to do a lot of work on it to make it what it is now. It’s a product of really hard work, and I’m so glad I did it.
With that said, I do wish that I was able to have the ‘normal’ dress buying experience, but I know I’d never be able to have what my dress is now, with my meager budget.
So, I do regret not shopping for dresses, but I do love my wedding dress, and am glad I have the one that my mom found.
Post # 6
I was going to wear my grandmother’s but it ended up being yellowed after all. It was pretty much identical to Kate Middleton’s dress. My mom is a stick figure so theres like no way that hers would have fit me. But tell you’re mom not to worry if you don’t wear it. I find the styles from our grandmothers’ generation are more similar to whats in right now so it stands to reason that any granddaughter she has will love it!
Go shopping and try the dress on too!
Post # 7
I was going to wear my mom’s dress, but when I tried it on it was a) SOOO 1980s it was awful, and b) about 5 sizes too big for me. I also don’t think I could have brought myself to cut it up if I had decided to wear it…it’s very sentimental to me, though, because my mom handmade it herself, and she passed away when I was an infant so I’ve never known her, so I like having the dress in one piece as she made/wore it, y’know?
But if you want to wear your mom’s I say go for it! Part of me still really wants to wear my mom’s dress so I think it’s a great option.
My only advice to you to decide about dress shopping is this: Figure out exactly why you want to dress shop. Is it because you subconsciously don’t 100% trust that you can make your mom’s dress into something you love? Or do you LOVE your mom’s dress but you feel like you “need” or are “supposed” to have that dress shopping experience? If the former, then I’d say go dress shopping, but if the latter, you need to come to terms with the fact that you will be happy in your mom’s dress and you don’t “need” that dress shopping trip for anything.