Post # 1
I was selected to be a bridesmaid for the daughter of a couple I am close with. She asked me how I had my bridesmaids wear their hair for my wedding and I told her that I did not care how they wore their hair but they mostly wore it down and pinned to the side. She texted me and said, well all my bridesmaids WILL wear their hair up. I have never worn my hair up in my life, only if it is for a short amount of time. The reason is because I will get a painful migraine from wearing my hair in a pony tail, or pinned up. I will get a migraine from a lot of things, smells, foods, gum chewing, wearing hats, tiredness. I honestly think that if I am participating in an all day event, that I should be able to wear my hair in a loose fitted way. Weddings can get very stressful and I don’t want anything triggering my migraine. I get to the point that I get dizzy, can’t see from the pain in my head, I am sensitve to loud noise, and I even get nausous. I have not told the bride to be that I don’t think I will be able to wear my hair back for the ceremony, I am just fearful that she will say I have no choice. I am willing to do like a loosely pulled back pony tail curled to the side or something like that….. I just hope she will be understanding and understand my condition. Any strain on my head causes in instant migraine, it’s annoying! Anyone who has migraines would understand my situation.
Post # 3
Why don’t you put your hair up in a loose way? Like one of these http://hairstylesimages.com/updos_hairstyles/beautiful-loose-updos.html
I get a headache if my hair is up too long as well, but usually it’s because they pull it too tight or stick the pins in too deep.
Post # 4
This should be very easy. You just have to explain to the bride that you have a medical condition- you get excruciating migraines from wearing your hair up. Let her know that if you feel this screws up her vision for how she wants the BMs to look, you completely understand and will bow out, but that you need to wear your hair down.
If she complains or cops a fit, seriously run away from this girl and never speak to her again because she is a huge b*tch.
Post # 5
Just be upfront with her. I wouldn’t subject myself to a situation that I *KNEW* would bring on a headache no matter who it was!
Post # 6
I have the same problem. It’s not even wearing it tight… if it’s tight enough to not just fall down, it’s tight enough to give me a headache. (It took me a really long time to realize that was what was causing them, too. Because really, hair?!)
I agree with Leeluu. Tell her it gives you a migraine, and if she doesn’t care, this is not a person you need to have in your life, period, much less deliberately suffer a migraine for. (Heh. I bet she’d just love a bridesmaid having a migraine and puking on the altar. 😉 )
On the headache topic, since I started wearing my hair short, I have so many fewer headaches. It was kind of sad, because you know, long beautiful hair… but there’s a lot to be said for less physical agony too. 🙂 If you haven’t worn your short, you might try that. Just getting the weight of my own hair off my head helped a lot.