(Closed) Wearing Ring or not if you are UPSET?

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
  • poll: Would you leave your Precious at home if you are Upset with FI?

    YES, he must know im Upset and this is the way!

    NO, Precious has nothing to do

    Other: describe below

  • Post # 92
    1218 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    Honestly, the only time Fiance notices my ring is when he goes to hold my hand and accidentally stabs himself with it. I could get in a fight with him, remove it and wave my bare hand in front of his face and he still wouldn’t notice.

    I feel like talking to your Fiance, or waiting until you’ve both calmed down then having a discussion, is the best way to handle this.

    Post # 93
    513 posts
    Busy bee

    I’ve taken it off once, but that was because I honestly thought we might end our engagement. I wouldn’t take it off because I was mad at him for staying out late.

    Post # 94
    3422 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I didn’t read many comments on here but taking the ring off after an argument seems a bit extreme to me and a little childish.  What is it supposed to accomplish? 

    Post # 95
    4654 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I never even really thought of that as a thing that people do? Seems manipulative/childish. Why not just say how you feel?

    Post # 96
    75 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    I got my ring sized on a colder day in spring. On a warmer day in summer its a nightmare to get off. Totally not worth the tugging pulling and vasaline to throw a strop! Plus I bet I would accidently vacuum it up or something!

    Post # 97
    51 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

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    @forever_shine:  Super terrible impulse. Glad you didn’t do it. And yes, it wouldve been immature and passice aggressive. But honestly, at a month out…he’s lucky you didn’t wait up and throw a b!tch fit. Tell him a spa massage is a great way to apologize and just let him know you’re really stressed right now.

    My DH said something about the seating chart being stupid and blah, blah, blah about a month out. Never tell a woman who has spent time figuring out a seating chart and table arrangement its stupid and as a guest you really wouldnt care for it a month away from the wedding. I had taken him out to a nice dinner when he decided to mention it. I didn’t talk the entire way home and finally told him I would talk about it later and went to sleep at 8:30pm.

    I would’ve unloaded all my stress on him if I had dealt with it then. Wedding stress can get to all of us at times. Don’t do anything stupid, just relax…and see if you can get that massage. I got a spa day after he realized he was causing me additional stress, which wasn’t his intention. He just didn’t know he was adding to my stress and was super supportive after I had a talk with him.

    Post # 98
    1285 posts
    Bumble bee

    You can’t remove your ring over every single argument or diagreement.  That’s an immature thing to do.  

    Post # 99
    2249 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I think you’ve been blasted enough on here and my opinion is basically the same as all of the PPs (although perhaps to a lesser degree… some people get so worked up!). Glad you didn’t take off your ring… it is very pretty by the way!

    Post # 100
    1524 posts
    Bumble bee

    The only time I’ve taken a ring off was when I was 17 and “engaged.” Obviously it didn’t last for many reasons, maturity being one of them. If my husband ever did that I would be beyond hurt. The only time we don’t wear them is if we’ve forgotten to put them on after showering or cleaning or sleeping or something. I will only take my ring off if we’re getting divorced. Even at our lowest, the thought never crossed my mind to be manipulative like that. It’s always been, “Even though we’re not getting along, lets try to talk about it or take time to cool off and then talk about it.” 

    Post # 101
    185 posts
    Blushing bee

    Taking your ring off because you are upset is really immature, in my opinion. I would only take my ring off in anger if I intended on ending my relationship. My ring represents a promise, and not one I take lightly. I tell my Fiance if I am upset and we talk about it. He would be furious if I passive aggressively left my ring at home to make a point. And I would be pissed if he did the same.

    I totally understand being upset with your SO when something goes awry and I really hope I didn’t offend anyone by saying this.

    Post # 102
    130 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    lol I never wear mine to begin with. DH and I had a rough patch a few months ago when he was home from being deployed, and he passive aggressively hid my ring out of spite. Kinda backfired on him when I never noticed it was missing for over a month.

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