(Closed) Wearing the dress before the wedding…

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Would you be upset if your bridesmaid wanted to wear her dress to an event before your wedding?
    Yes, I believe it's a special dress for MY day. : (67 votes)
    33 %
    No, it's her dress and it really doesn't matter. : (108 votes)
    53 %
    Don't really care one way or the other. : (28 votes)
    14 %
  • Post # 3
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I wouldnt be happy about it, that’s for sure!

    Post # 4
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I would be happy if a Bridesmaid or Best Man could wear their dress again.

    Post # 5
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    Bumble bee

    After the wedding, no problem, in fact I hope they do!

    Before the wedding though, I would be scared of them getting something on it or tearing it (since the dresses are chiffon)

    Post # 6
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    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Can you ask her if she has thought of another option to wear first?

    Post # 7
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    i made a point to tell my bridesmaids that i would prefer that they don’t wear their dresses for any other occasions until after the wedding. i don’t want to risk something happening to it (a tear, a stain) and then have to deal with the stress of making sure it’s fixed in time for the wedding.

    Post # 8
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    I guess I would just be worried about something happening to it.

    Post # 9
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    Busy bee

    I wouldn’t worry about it. How flattering that she likes the dress you choose enough to wear it on a different occassion! That’s quite a compliment. I really hope my girls like their dresses that much. 

    Post # 10
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2015

    She paid for it, you can’t really tell her what to do with it. You get 1 day. I’d actually be really happy if my Bridesmaid or Best Man liked the dress I picked well enought to re-wear it. And if I were a Bridesmaid or Best Man and had to pay for a dress, I’d be really glad to have an occasion to re-use something that was probably expensive. If she messes it up though, it’s on her to clean/fix it is all.

    Post # 12
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I think that if you don’t know this other person and if there aren’t going to be friends that are coming to your wedding that are going to this other one, I wouldn’t mind.  HOWEVER, I would preface that with a warning to her that if she ruins it with stains, tears, or even wrinkles I’ll you-know-what her.  Yes, Bridezilla threatening would come out.  Lol. But truthfully if she likes the dress so much that she would be wanting to wear it to another event, she won’t ruin it, and no one will know the difference I would be fine with it.

    Post # 13
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I wouldn’t worry about it and take it personally. She bought it and its probably going to be worn for around 4 hours. I doubt anyone will even recognize it come your wedding.

    Post # 14
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @speechgal44:  She’s also saying that the Bridesmaid or Best Man deess you chose was flattering, classic, and nice enough to be worn to other events.

    Post # 16
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    I don’t think her wearing it is saying that your wedding is any less special. As others said, she wants to wear it and that’s very flattering.

     

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