Post # 47
When I think of a wedding dress I think of white or ivory! If a bride wants to wear white then she can! Regardless of what marriage number it is or how many partners she has had (otherwise there would be very FEW brides wearing white on the day if it was taken literally!)
Post # 48
I agree with kay and fembride — even if it’s an unpopular opinion. By The Way, I am in my mid-30s, and have been happily married for more than 13 years. I was a very young bride, fresh out of uni, and I wore a big wedding dress with a long veil, gloves, etc.
If I were to get married again, I would opt for a simple cream or champagne coloured evening dress. For me, it would be all about the quality of the fabric (silk), the cut, and the workmanship. That would even be true if it were my first wedding, because my style has changed and grown up with me. I no longer desire a big ball gown, which really looks best on a young 20-something bride with the blush of youth. I am much more sophisticated today than I was back then, and that is reflected in my clothing choices.
My husband’s sister married again for the fourth time, and she wore a pure white dress. I thought it was not really appropriate, but her behaviour (she got very drunk and threw up in public — all over the table, too) was even less appropriate! I am a traditionalist, and to me it doesn’t matter that it’s 2011. The rules still stand in my book. That’s my opinion, and I will stand by that no matter how unpopular it may be.
I feel that, as a culture, we have gone too far in the “anything goes” direction. Rules can be incredibly helpful. The feedback so many people seek on this and other boards proves that people still care what others think. In the past, tradition and rules were good guidelines. Nowadays, many don’t know about etiquette and are left adrift.
Post # 49
I personally would chose something else, but that’s just me.
Post # 50
“It’s Your day!”
Is it really? I thought a wedding is a legal union and a socially sanctioned ritual. Based on that, it’s not really your or anybody’s day. If one did not want to celebrate this social event with one’s family and friends, one could sign a document in a dark cellar, and be done with it. By The Way, there is undoubtedly legal precedent for this practice.
I feel that this self-centered way of thinking and weddings as themed and staged productions are some of the things that are so wrong about today’s society. My own wedding was simply a wedding. That was the theme; it worked for many generations before me. It was not my day or my groom’s day, but a day to celebrate.
Post # 51
I say wear what you want!
Post # 52
I really don’t mean to be rude, but if I saw a pregnant third time bride in a big white poofy beaded concoction with a giant veil, I might side eye it a little but I would not be like OMGZ!!!! I do think that a bride, no matter the age or condition, can wear white and it’s absolutly fine as long as it’s tasteful and age appropriate.