Wearing white to a wedding?

posted 1 year ago in Guests
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

Well if she says she prefers it why not?

Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

I think since she specified that’s the specific color scheme she likes, go for it! If it still makes you uncomfortable, you could wear a blush color so it still fits in the scheme but you’re not in stark white.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

diamondbeez :  i’m guessing this is a chinese wedding, since it’s in shanghai? in chinese culture, white is not a wedding color, and the bride is never in white – she’s in red. so you would never want to wear red to a chinese wedding. white is weird, though, as that’s usually considered a funeral color. not sure how hard and fast that is – but if the bride said she WANTS you to wear white, then why not?

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

China might have different rules? I wouldn’t assume that a Euro/American custom applies in China. 

If the bride said to wear white then its ok. 

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

diamondbeez :  hmm, well that’s a bit odd, then. still, i’ve heard of western weddings where it’s been requested that everyone wears white – not typical, but ya know. if i were you, i’d probably just wear pink/blush and avoid the potential for drama altogether.

Post # 8
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Busy bee

I’ve been hearing about this more and more. Relative of mine in california posted she was attending a wedding and how the guests were asked to wear white.

I suppose it’s all good as long as you don’t show up in a wedding dress 🙂

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

diamondbeez :  I personally wouldnt even though the bride said its OK lol 

Post # 10
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Bee Keeper

Wasnt one of the kardashian weddings all white? 

Some people are into that. If youre ok with a “set dress code” then I would follow what she asks. 

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

I find it more odd that she’s dictating what her guests wear. I was under the impression that brides only have a say in what they, their partners, their parents and their wedding party wear. 

I would probably just wear blush if it bothers you that much, but if she says white is ok, I don’t see why you can’t wear white. Just make sure your dress doesn’t look bridal, and you’ll be fine. 

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2014

diamondbeez :  It’s fine for you to wear it given she has specified it; it wouldn’t be rude for you to do so.

But it’s rude that she’s asked guests to wear specific colours.

In short: she’s the one breaching etiquette here.

Post # 13
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Honey bee

diamondbeez :  Is it on the invite? Because I’d feel weird too. Maybe wear blush so you don’t have to worry about it? 

Post # 14
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Sugar bee

I’m quite sure wearing white to a wedding isn’t taboo in China since the traditional bride’s colour is red. Even if the bride is wearing white I don’t think it will carry the same significance there unless the vast majority of people are totally unfamiliar with Chinese culture. 

It’s a bit weird she’d ask people to wear certain colours though.. Is it on the invite or being told to the whole guest list somehow? 

Post # 15
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Worker bee

If someone tells you what to wear to their wedding…I’d trust them. What do we know?

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