(Closed) Wearing white to a wedding?

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
9094 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

I wouldn’t have noticed if someone had worn white to my wedding. I wouldn’t have cared, either.

Post # 4
942 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

 I think it might be out the window, but if you as a guest ‘notice’ this and make a mental note of it… I would perhaps suggest it unwise to do.  

Just let the bride have her day– regardless of where you stand on the etiquette issue.

Post # 6
3638 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Considering that guests also don’t RSVP, don’t bring cards, don’t understand that if it doesn’t say “and guest” that you can’t bring a guest etc etc Then yes, the “don’t wear white” rule is going out the window. 

But I would look down on any quest I saw wearing white at any wedding. 

Post # 7
7477 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

Someone wore a white dress to my wedding and I didn’t even notice until I saw pictures the next day. I didn’t really care. However, I do notice as a guest when other guests wear white and I do find it a bit strange. There are so many other colors out there, why wear a completely white dress to someone’s wedding? I think a lot of brides out there do still care so I wouldn’t risk wearing white to someone’s wedding even though I as a bride didn’t care.

Post # 8
2050 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

Save the cute white dresses for another occasion. Let the bride have her white.

Post # 9
2447 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

With a plethora of colors available, I think it’s still best to leave white to the bride and bridesmaids. You don’t want to be that guest that looks like you’ve wandered into the wedding straight from P.Diddy’s Hamptons party.

Post # 10
1979 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

@simplyMrsN:  I don’t think it is acceptable and I wouldn’t risk it.  Lots of guests do things they aren’t supposed to do- if wedding guests start jumping off the cliff, would you?  I know someone who is still upset with a SIL for wearing white to her wedding 30 years ago.  If someone wears white to my wedding, then my mother would ask them to leave and not come back until they are dressed appropriately- Momma Bear would be pissed!  And it would bother me- I think it is disrespectful and guests should know better.

Post # 11
5005 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2018

Guests wearing white to a wedding – mine or anyone else’s – annoys me an irrational amount. IMO, it’s just disrespectful.

Post # 12
8686 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

@Hyperventilate:  agree


I definitely wouldnt look down on anyone either.

ETA: I personally would not wear white but I never wear a white dress to anything unless it’s an all-white affair.

Post # 13
794 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

@simplyMrsN:   I still can’t believe people do this!  I would be pretty irritated if I was a guest at a wedding and another guest was wearing white…I honestly thought it was common knowledge.  If it was my wedding, I probably wouldn’t notice….hopefully.

Post # 15
312 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I think it’s rude. I wouldn’t do it personally. Unless it was like a white sun dress w/ a print or something. My idiot cousin wore a ridiculous fluffy white dress to someone’s wedding. I actually thought she got married at first.

Post # 16
2837 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@simplyMrsN:  Personally, I wouldn’t care at all if someone wore white to my wedding.  I don’t like being the center of attention anyway- 

It’s a color (or lack thereof), on a person.  Not sure why people would be flocking to someone else and showering them with attention – or taking attention away from- the bride just because they are wearing white.  As much as I do know it’s a “no no” – like no white after Labor Day and no white before Memorial Day- I guess I  just want to know who makes these rules LOL

Now if someone came to my wedding in a white wedding gown– LOL- well I’d probably laugh and then tell them to take a hike.

I wouldn’t wear white to a wedding, but that’s because you won’t catch me in white in general- except for my wedding day- and my dress is ivory!

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