(Closed) wearing white/cream to someone else’s wedding

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: What do you think about girls who wear white/cream to a wedding other than their own?
    awful! only the bride should wear white! : (151 votes)
    81 %
    it's fine, you can wear whatever you want wherever you want! : (7 votes)
    4 %
    i don't care either way! : (17 votes)
    9 %
    other - please explain! : (11 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 3
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    242 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    *officially* I believe there’s no rule saying no one else can wear white. It’s still kind of poor-form to show up looking mildly bridal at someone else’s wedding though. I wouldn’t do it and I’d be disappointed if someone else did it at my wedding.

    Post # 4
    Member
    7771 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    I don’t mind personally, but according to etiquette it is a no-no.

    So- to me it is fine.  To etiquette- not so much.

    Post # 5
    Member
    5096 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I voted other.  I think it’s a dumb rule whose only purpose is to create hard feelings. I don’t think it should be held against someone who shows up in white without knowing that she’s not supposed to. That said, I would never wear white to another wedding, because I DO know, and I would never intentionally make someone feel bad on their wedding day.

    Post # 6
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    1036 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I wouldn’t want anyone to steal any of my thunder, and I would never do it to another bride.  You get to be the bride once…

    Post # 7
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    2701 posts
    Sugar bee

    It’s not every day someone gets to spend the whole day in a giant white dress. I think you should let the bride have her day, and hopefully people will do the same for you.

    Post # 8
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    5921 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: December 2010

    It wouldn’t bother me.  I was in a satin dress with a cathedral train and veil and glittery headpiece, so everyone knew I was the bride.  I couldn’t tell you if someone wore white, I didn’t notice.

    Post # 9
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    3482 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: February 2011

    I think as long as you’re not wearing something that could be mistaken as being bridal, it’s no big deal.

    Post # 10
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    793 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    I think it depends. Some people don’t care and some people do. for me though I would never wear white to someone else’s wedding, because I never know if the bride would be okay with it or not. But I agree I dont think you should get mad at someone for wearing cream/ivory/white if they didn’t know. I remember the very first wedding I went too, I wore a floor length flowy white skirt, and a brown tank top blouse that synched at the waist, and brown flip flops. I was young and didn’t really know the rules. Granted now I don’t think it was big deal because I wasn’t fully wearing white, just on my skirt, but someone totally freaked on me (not the bride.) about wearing that white skirt. I later talked to the bride (my cousin) and she was like “What?! It’s not a big deal, it’s not like you are wearing a white shirt too!” So I was glad she didn’t care. So for me though I would never wear a full on white outfit to a wedding. Maybe a white dress with a colored pattern on it or something. but never full on white. But then some brides wear pink,red, etc. colored dresses so should people not wear those colors either because the bride is wearing them. People just assume the bride is wearing white/ivory, which makes sense cause that is the norm., but I’m just saying.

    Post # 10
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    293 posts
    Helper bee

    It wouldn’t bother me unless the dress looked like a wedding dress. If someone showed up at my wedding wearing a white dress I would not feel like my day was stolen. To be honest I don’t even understand the feeling.

    However, I avoid wearing white to someone else’s wedding in case they do feel that way.

     

    Post # 10
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    1212 posts
    Bumble bee

    I would never! It’s one of my biggest wedding pet peeves I get so mad when I see it. I’m pretty sure that if anyone wore white to mine I would give them a slow look up and down with a VERY pointed eyebrow raise. 🙁

    Post # 11
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    952 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    IMO, as long as it’s not a bridal gown, it’s ok. 

    Post # 12
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    2701 posts
    Sugar bee

    @ Mrs.Golden2Bee: I could feel the very pointed eye-brow raise. 🙂

    Post # 12
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    1909 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    No bueno.

    Post # 13
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    333 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    @CookieBee:I have an Aunt who thought it was ok to wear white jeans to my cousins wedding.  We’re talking church wedding, semi-formal reception.  WHITE JEANS!  She also had one some printed shirt and a white flowy sweater.  I think the jeans shocked me more than anything, this is a woman who comes dressed to the nines for every occasion!

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