(Closed) wearing white/cream to someone else’s wedding

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: What do you think about girls who wear white/cream to a wedding other than their own?
    awful! only the bride should wear white! : (151 votes)
    81 %
    it's fine, you can wear whatever you want wherever you want! : (7 votes)
    4 %
    i don't care either way! : (17 votes)
    9 %
    other - please explain! : (11 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 14
    Member
    1211 posts
    Bumble bee

    @Mrs.ChubbyBunny:

    HAHAHA! yeah I don’t mess around with my facial expressions, I would strike them dead with a glance! 😛

    Post # 15
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    3048 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: January 1991

    I say no, never ok! But, if someone does this at my wedding I’m sure I won’t care at all. I think it will be enough embarassment for whoever did it because all my friends would be whispering OR telling her straight to her face that she shouldn’t have. Plus, I’m all about no stress at my wedding… unless you wear a wedding dress… 🙂

    Post # 16
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    6392 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    I understand that a lot of dresses have white in them, but there are a ton more that are very colorful or even are just black. It kind of pisses me off if someone does it intentionally. Younger ladies who just don’t know tradition and etiquette don’t bother me, though. 

    Post # 17
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    11324 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2011

    i wouldn’t have cared at all if someone wore white to our wedding, but i wouldn’t wear it to someone else’s because i know some people are bothered by it. 

    Post # 18
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    903 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2009

    Honestly, I didn’t notice anything that my guests wore; I was a little preoccupied :-). But that said, I wouldn’t wear a white dress to a wedding, especially a formal one.

    Post # 19
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    1041 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    As long as its not a white gown, i dont think it would bother me. I would never intentionally wear white to a wedding, though, but last year i accidentally did. I was wearing a strapless black dress and my Fiance reminded me to grab something to cover up since it was a very conservative crowed, so i grabbed my nearest sweater as i walked out of the door, which happended to be cream. I didnt even think about it until after the wedding when i saw a picture of me with the bride. I felt sooo bad.

    Post # 20
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    2194 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 2011

    Did anyone watch Real Housewives of NYC this week? Alex and Ramona were both wearing white to that wedding in the Hamptons! I just think it’s in poor taste…even if it is old fashioned.

    Post # 21
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    2522 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    I don’t care really what people wear, and I don’t have any white dresses to wear to other people’s weddings 🙂

    Post # 22
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    10285 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    Not cool with me. There are a million other colors to choose from so I don’t even see why someone would need to wear a white dress. If the dress has other colors then thats fine but I feel like an all white dress is just unnecessary. I wouldn’t go all bridezilla if someone wore white to my wedding but I don’t think I’d be pleased. 

    The girlfriend of a groomsmen in one of my best friends weddings wore a white dress and it was completely intentional. My friend and this girl didn’t get along so she purposely wore white just to be a bitch. It took everything I had to not “accidently” spill wine on her. 

    Post # 23
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    109 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    I personally wouldn’t freak out if someone wore white to my wedding. I would have a bit of a yucky taste in my mouth about the issue I’ll admit.

    Post # 24
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    2522 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: November 2013

    Fun story, my sister and I went to a cousin’s wedding when we were 14/15.  My sister wore white, do you think she was being rude?  We had no idea that etiquette stated no white or else she would have wore something different.  I sometimes wonder if my cousin harbors vengeful thoughts about the matter (I sincerely doubt it).  As far as I remember, no one pulled my sister aside to tell her (and I have an aunt that would).  I guess what I’m trying to say is that I don’t think it’s always intentional and that sometimes it can be out of ingorance or accidental.  However, if your goal is to wear white and get into as many pictures as possible, I might believe it’s intentional.

    Post # 25
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    3613 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2010

    Etiquette says no, but I wouldn’t care if someone wore white to our wedding. As long as it’s not a floor length all-white dress, nobody would’ve confused them as the bride.

    What bothered me more was a guest that was showing way too much cleavage. I didn’t even notice it that day, but there’s a lovely photo of DH’s 90+ year old grandma that we wanted to frame, except we can’t because this girl’s leaning over right behind grandma and half exposed bazongas are surrounding grandma’s face (she’s a plus size girl). Really unfortunate choice of outfit and timing.

    Post # 26
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    606 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    @mightywombat: couldn’t have said it better myself.  I think it is such a stupid rule and think it only exists to make someone feel bad.  That said, because I do know about the rule and how others feel about it, I would never ever wear white to someone’s wedding, though I honestly could not care less if someone showed up wearing white to mine.

    Post # 27
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    2154 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I don’t personally care about it, but I know it would upset other people, so I wouldn’t go there myself.

    Post # 28
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    7693 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2010

    I dont think that people should wear white to a wedding, but I dont think its that big of a deal if they do. If it is a shorter white dress for a summer wedding that looks nothing like a wedding dress then I dont think it matters that much. Would I do it myself? No. But I wouldnt gasp if someone else did.

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