(Closed) wearing white/cream to someone else’s wedding

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: What do you think about girls who wear white/cream to a wedding other than their own?
    awful! only the bride should wear white! : (151 votes)
    81 %
    it's fine, you can wear whatever you want wherever you want! : (7 votes)
    4 %
    i don't care either way! : (17 votes)
    9 %
    other - please explain! : (11 votes)
    6 %
  • Post # 44
    Member
    5656 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: February 2012

    I don’t think it’s too much to ask that when I attend a wedding I wear any other freaking color but white, cream or ivory. 

    Post # 45
    Member
    827 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    If you care at all what other people think, you wouldn’t wear white.  There will be at least one person there that thinks you’re a d-bag. =)

    Post # 46
    Member
    38 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: May 2009

    Here’s the thing – it isn’t about anyone confusing a white-wearing guest for the bride.  To me, it looks like a major eff you to the bride at worst, and like that person is utterly clueless at best.  I think it’s a major no-no.

    Post # 47
    Member
    1641 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    This something I am surprisingly “traditional” about; I say guests should not wear white to a wedding.

    It’s refreshing to see though that there are other brides who don’t care what color the guests wear.

    Post # 48
    Member
    500 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    No!!!! Not acceptable in my book. If someone came to my wedding wearing white, I would probably throw them out.

    Post # 49
    Member
    406 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    @HZ:haha i had never heard that about the grooms mother! for some reason that cracked me up. Thankfully my Future Mother-In-Law chose navy blue, but i could easily see her wearing red on accident and everyone who knows that rule thinking i’m a harlot!! lol

    Post # 50
    Member
    1315 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    We went to a wedding a couple weeks back where one guest wore a near-white dress – closest to champagne, really, but this dress was inappropriate on so many levels.

    It was floor length, one shoulder and backless, with a very long bulky pearl-encrusted strap that wound across the neckline, over one shoulder, down the back to very low across the [bare] hips and back up around and over the bust. It was damn near a feat of engineering to get the thing to stay on, I’d imagine, and a miracle the wearer’s boobs stayed in it. And every time she stood up she had huge marks in her skin from where the strap had dug in!

    This was a wedding with a church service, too. So strange to see this vision sashaying up to her seat!

    I personally am not inclined to care what anyone wears to my wedding, but I think it is rude to wear something that demands so much attention. The bride and groom are supposed to be, generally, the focus of the day.

    For myself, I see nothing wrong with maybe wearing a pale colour dress as long as there is a bright colour pattern or something on it and it is not designed to grab every eye in attendance.

    Post # 51
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    1315 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    For the sake of the argument, I think this dress would be fine:

    But this next dress would most definitely not:

    Post # 52
    Member
    7369 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    If it has a print, I dont see the problem.

    Post # 53
    Member
    23 posts
    Newbee
    • Wedding: November 2010

    The whole no one but the bride should be in white is pretty stupid. I could undersand if you had a very formal wedding and someone walked in white a white beaded gown, but white pants or a skirt come on. It is hard to mistake a wedding dress for a pant suit. No I would say if it is maybe someone 2nd or 3rd wedding I would stay away from white as the bride may skip the usual wedding dress and opt for something more low key.

    It is hard to believe that someone would go into it planning on hurting the Bride, by wearing white. Especially in the summer months or on a beach setting it’s a pretty common color for the season. I would not wear all white head to toe but a white top or pants, why not. I think it is rather bridezilla ish’ to freak out that your friend or cousin has on a white shirt or pants. I didn’t care at all when people did it at mine. Everyone is already there for you, and as the bride you are there to marry the man you love. Not to criticize your friends and family. Not to mention the whole ettiquet thing seems to be followed only when people want to, like isn’t the bride supposed to be a virgin to wear white? That isn’t followed anymore!

    It is one more thing for people to stick their noses up at, and for some reason weddings have so many of them! The registry was too short, too long, to cheap, too expensive, there was alcohol or there wasn’t. What happened to just being happy for people?

    Post # 54
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    178 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2011

    definitly not ok! i would not be happy!

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