(Closed) Wearing your ring at work – emotional colleague

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Should I downplay my engagement when it comes?

    Don't worry about it, celebrate!

    Downplay it a little, don't be heartless!

    Try to mention it/show the ring as little as possible.

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  • Post # 17
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    1692 posts
    Bumble bee

    Wear your ring. It’s part of your “dress” and not a matter for anyone else’s comment or reaction. But keep your private life private and your business life businesslike. In the long run you will avoid problems for yourself by avoiding wedding talk in the workplace.

    Post # 18
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I wouldn’t show off anyway. After I got engaged I didnt’t mention it to anyone unless they mentioned it to me first. My friends knew, but I didn’t walk around with my finger in the air.

    Go on as usual but don’t rub it in her face. If someone brings it up that’s fine.

     

    Post # 19
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    4065 posts
    Honey bee

    @babybear: I believe you should never downplay your happiness, because of others. Sure, you could be sensitive to her situation and say something about how you hope everything is okay with her, but you should enjoy every second of being engaged when it happens, and not worry about all that trivial stuff. If it were family or a close friend, maybe having more of a conversation about it to mullify their feelings would be good, but that’s not the situation you’re in. And congratulations in advance!!

    Post # 20
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    1094 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    Dont you even think of NOT celebrating for the sake of her melodramaticness. This is your time and will never have it again. Celebrate the way you always wanted to, regardless of the drama at the office.

    Post # 21
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    3194 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @babybear:  do whatever feels natural. if you’re excited and ecstatic, be excited and ecstatic! if you feel a quiet pride in your engagement, exhibit quiet pride. i wouldn’t recommend going to her directly and being like LOOK AT MY ENGAGEMENT RING I’M SO EXCITED TO BE ENGAGED, obviously but you shouldn’t NOT celebrate at work by any means.

    Post # 22
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    3083 posts
    Sugar bee

    @babybear:  You can wear it and be happy and celebrate without being obnoxious about it. As long as you arent waving it in her face every few seconds I think you will be just fine 🙂

    Post # 23
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    449 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @babybear:  wear it  be happy and celebrate. you deserve to enjoy this exciting time for you. if she cant be happy for you than thats her issue and not yours. just dont rub it in her face

    Post # 24
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    12244 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2013

    When I got enaged, I had a boss who was (very unhappily) waiting, and had been for 7 years!

    She refused to speak to me for a WEEK after I got engaged.

    And it was totally worth it! I was so excited, I couldn’t have controlled my enthusiasm, anyway!

    Post # 26
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    184 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    Your drama queen colleague has no bearing on how happy and excited YOU get to be.

    Post # 27
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    841 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2015

    @babybear:  If she was allowed to be excited about her engagement, then you are too!

    Post # 29
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    4998 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Your engagement has nothing to do with hers. I mean I wouldn’t run into her office and rub it in her face, but I also wouldn’t act any differently than if she were engaged/married/divorced/whatever. 

    Post # 30
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    453 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

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    @mixtapehearts:  +1

    It might even make her feel awkward if she caught on that you were downplaying it because of her. If she chooses to get upset, that’s her time and energy she’s wasting; don’t concern yourself with it.

    Post # 31
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    522 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2014

    Be as happy as you want. Unlike the PPs who have said that they didn’t show off, I went up to pretty much everyone I know at work and said “look at my ring!” Of course, my mom is one of my workmates, and most of coworkers also had me as a student, so they all wanted to see it. I bet your coworkers will want to see your ring, too! Don’t worry about her. She can deal with it, and if she’s usually super melodramatic, they might just be fighting? Obviously don’t stick your ring in her face, but there’s no reason not to announce it office and show off your ring to the people who want to see!

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