Post # 32
i don’t know if I would worry too much until the engagement actually happens. That being said, I think go on and celebrate, you deserve it! I think downplaying it for her sake might actually make it worse… She would probably pick up on what you’re doing and be irritated at the pity you’re showing her- at least I would be anyway- I wouldn’t like people feeling sorry for me to that extreme !!
Post # 33
Wear the ring. No need to run around the office screaming “I’m engaged” but no reason to hide it either. If she reacts badly, it isn’t your fault. Maybe try to downplay about when she’s close by, but don’t feel like you can’t discuss it at all.
Post # 34
I don’t see the problem with going in celebrating a bit then getting back to work.
Post # 35
@babybear: Wear your ring with pride and when people ask don’t hesitate to tell them how happy you are. Certainly don’t go out of your way to rub it in her face (I’m sure you wouldn’t as you sound very mature), but this is a once in a lifetime experience for you as well and no way should you feel as though you need to hide it. If she tends towards the dramatic well there’s nothing you can do about that. Maybe one day she’ll realise how off putting that sort of behaviour is and grow up a little herself.
Post # 36
thank you all so much for all your kinds words and advice. I had a feeling it was coming soon, and I wanted to be prepared – turns out I was right! we got engaged yesterday! And tomorrow, when I go into work, I’ll know that this happy event is about me, and I shouldn’t downplay my happiness! (although I certainly will be tacktful!).