(Closed) Wearing your ring at work – emotional colleague

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Should I downplay my engagement when it comes?

    Don't worry about it, celebrate!

    Downplay it a little, don't be heartless!

    Try to mention it/show the ring as little as possible.

    Other (explain)

  • Post # 32
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    i don’t know if I would worry too much until the engagement actually happens. That being said, I think go on and celebrate, you deserve it! I think downplaying it for her sake might actually make it worse… She would probably pick up on what you’re doing and be irritated at the pity you’re showing her- at least I would be anyway- I wouldn’t like people feeling sorry for me to that extreme !!

    Post # 33
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    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Wear the ring. No need to run around the office screaming “I’m engaged” but no reason to hide it either. If she reacts badly, it isn’t your fault. Maybe try to downplay about when she’s close by, but don’t feel like you can’t discuss it at all.

    Post # 34
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    103 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    I don’t see the problem with going in celebrating a bit then getting back to work. 

    Post # 35
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @babybear:  Wear your ring with pride and when people ask don’t hesitate to tell them how happy you are. Certainly don’t go out of your way to rub it in her face (I’m sure you wouldn’t as you sound very mature), but this is a once in a lifetime experience for you as well and no way should you feel as though you need to hide it. If she tends towards the dramatic well there’s nothing you can do about that. Maybe one day she’ll realise how off putting that sort of behaviour is and grow up a little herself. 

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