(Closed) Wearing your ring at work – emotional colleague

posted 7 years ago in Rings
  • poll: Should I try to downplay my engagement?

    Don't worry about it - celebrate your happiness!

    Downplay it a little, don't be tacky

    other (explain)

  • Post # 3
    7592 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I think you’re worrying about nothing. I certainly wouldn’t leave my ring at home if I had just gotten engaged! It’s sweet of you to consider her feelings but I don’t think you need to just ignore/downplay your engagement because hers didn’t work out.

    Post # 4
    281 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    @babybear:  This will be your time to be happy, so don’t worry about her 🙂 Maybe don’t talk non stop about it for a week straight, but don’t downplay it just because something went wrong with hers. Live it up sweetie! AND – early congrats Wink

    Post # 5
    7426 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2013

    I would wear my ring and not worry about it. Of course, I wouldn’t run up to her showing off the ring saying “I’m getting married and you’re not!!”, but I wouldn’t do that to anyone anyway,

    Post # 6
    1633 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    First of all I would not go into work showing off my ring amd making a big deal about something in my personal life.  I go to work to work.  Instead when I became engaged people learned one of two ways: they saw the ring on my finger and asked if I was engaged or someone told them through the grapevine.  Don’t worry about your coworker.  Stuff happens.  Life goes on.  Just worry about living yours 

    Post # 7
    875 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    @babybear:  You’re totally over thinking this. Wait until you’re actually engaged and then wear your ring to work. NBD.

    Post # 8
    2597 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2010

    @babybear:  Hello!

    It sounds like your co-worker might have gone through a heartbreaking breakup so regardless of her personality, you should be kind and sensitive to her.

    Wear your ring but tell people either quietly or away from her. Don’t talk to her or around her about your wedding plans. Discourage others from discussing it around her as much as you can.  Just treat her like you would want to be treated if it were you.

    On the other hand, if she gets wind of your engagement, sees the ring and reacts badly, that’s not your fault and while remaining sympathetic, you need not feel guilty. You didn’t get engaged to spite her. 


    Post # 9
    2187 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    Wear your ring to work and discuss it with others if you want to, but be tactful in front of her. 

    Post # 10
    8574 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    I think it really depends when you get your ring. If it’s still a couple weeks off, I wouldn’t worry about it.. if it was tomorrow, I would be a little more careful when she was around.

    Obviously, she hasn’t discussed it with you girls for awhile, and probably doesn’t want to. She might even be thankful that someone is taking the attention off her for awhile so she doesn’t have to worry about someone asking.

    Post # 12
    1119 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2010

    Definitely wear your ring, but you don’t need to come in the office screaming that you got engaged and to look at the ring. Just answer people’s questions if they ask.


    Post # 13
    354 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Wear your ring and don’t stress too much about. Also, don’t treat her differently than anyone else. Don’t tell a bunch of people and not her…that’d be more hurtful. But I would limit wedding talk at work in general (I recommend this to anyone) – it avoids hurt feelings if people aren’t invited or are sensitive. Answer if people ask but keep it to a minimum.

    If you are friendly with her, maybe ask to lunch or HH something with others she is friendly with and just be a friend – she may need one now (or even just a distraction).

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