- 6 years ago
We’re not even engaged yet but we’ve talked about getting engaged in 2012. Yayy! We’ve also talked about getting married, just the 2 of us somewhere far away. I thought this was a done deal and we wouldn’t even think about spending the money on a big event.
Last weekend, we were amongst his family (which is very very large) and of course they asked the usual questions: when is the wedding? when is the baby coming? etc.
When we got home that night, we were talking and he basically said that we should look into having a reception and the whole shebang. I nearly fell out of my seat! I’m really not very traditional and I dont want to deal with bridesmaids, flower girls, what shade of roses, the linens, the music or the food. Just not worth if to me if I can’t afford to do it REALLY well. Which means alot of money that I don’t have nor want to spend on 1 night. I think there are a lot of elements to weddings that are really tacky and I just couldn’t live with myself going through with things just to please other people.
I know that his family is going to be dissapointed that we’re not throwing a party. But i’m also an adult and I’d rather spend my money on buying a home and having savings.
Have any of you dealt with a similar situation with your SO?
How would you recommend getting to a compromise?
I would do an elegant dinner for a small group of family but it’s going to be soooo hard for him to omit members of his huge family.