Post # 32
In my area, gaps are not common, but we don’t have a very large Catholic demographic here. My DH is from NJ, and he and his whole family are Catholic and gaps are the norm. The first time I went to one with him I was seriously annoyed.
Personally, I *hate* them. I get it, it’s the downside you having a ceremony at your house of worship….but it’s SO inconvienient for your guests. The last gap wedding I attended the whole family went to a local bar to hang out and have snacks. Well that sucked becuase by the time we got to cocktail hour we’d already been eating. I hate sitting around for hours all dressed up with my hair/makeup done and have to try keeping myself presentable.
I went to one where the couple put a list of suggestions and fun things to do in the area. Yeah, cause I’m going to the zoo or take a segway tour or sightsee in my wedding attire? Not.
Post # 33
We had a 1pm wedding and a 4:30 reception. It went super fast, according to the guests–we had tea and cakes at the church just after the 1-hour ceremony for people to nibble on while we did our receiving line, chatted briefly with guests, and then exited the church (1 hour). Then, we went off to take photos while guests went to our reception venue and enjoyed drinks (45 minutes), then we joined our guests and mingled/took more photos with family and friends for another 45 minutes. Sounds like a long time, but friends told us it felt like we were almost rushing things through.
Post # 34
For all the weddings I’ve been to with a gap, I have just gone home in between, or in the case of one that was an hour from my house, my aunt hosted our family at her place in between, since she lived about 10 minutes from the ceremony location.
If it was out of town, I would probably just go for a drink somewhere.
Post # 35
This is pretty typical in my circle; I thought most weddings had a gap like this. Nothing to really worry about. Go have coffee or get a drink in between. You can do this as a couple of with other guests that you know – it can be really fun!
Our wedding is at 3. I’m anticipating a 30-40 minute ceremony, and our reception starts at 5. It also takes about 20 minutes to drive from the church to the reception venue, so our guests won’t have more than an hour to kill.
Post # 36
@mrscross1020: We are having that schedule. Wedding is at 2 pm at my catholic church. This will end around 3:15, with everyone out of the church by 3:45. The reception is 30 minutes away, and the cocktail hour starts at 4, though originally we were going to have it start at 4:30.
So in the end, it’s not that much of a gap. If guests leave immediately and don’t dawdle at the ceremony, they’ll be leaving at 3:20, add 30 minutes to drive, and it’s 3:50. There’s about 10 minutes to find parking, stop at their hotel room, etc before the cocktail hour starts.
Post # 37
Wow tons of replies! Thanks ladies. This particular wedding is close to home, so I know we will figure something out. I’m used to going to weddings that have ceremony and reception at the same place, at the same time. So just a new concept for me!
Post # 38
@mrscross1020: every wedding i have been to has a gap. That gap is used for pictures.
If you are traveling to an area where you are not familiar with maybe look up a bar or lounge to hang out at